depression, been put on antidepressants, have become a reclusive, and cannot seem to stop obsessing about her. What can I do to put her out of my mind and move on with my life?
2007-03-04 01:19:47 · 14 answers · asked by Mr. Blue 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When i found out my partner had cheated on me i was devastated to depression.this was 6 yrs ago and im only just feeling somthing like normal again.We are still together but im not sure how long we will last maybe for ever maybe not as its still very hard to come to terms with.And my biggest beleif for a good fair relationship is trust and that went 6 yrs ago,i dont think i will ever get that level of trust back for him.Now the dep, is going i can see more clearly forward and what i want for my future .Im not sure if hes in it.SO dont despair it does take time ,but please think to yourself every day and i mean think it every day that it will go away and you can move on ,and i dont belive yours will last 6 yrs as i had other influences too.trust me you will get better.try a small indoor hobby, i did and it helps alot, you might not feel like getting started, but you have to push yourself hard and keep doing so until you start to enjoy it .you will eventually.and while your concentrating on that the other things will dissapear.So go paint,draw,write poems,write about your experiences,bake,anything just do something .NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOWWW .GOOD LUCK SWEETHEART n YOULL BE OK HONEST.
2007-03-04 01:45:50 · answer #1 · answered by patsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sir Samuel,
I know you've been put on antidepressants as you've stated but have you seen a Psychologist? It may not be as easy as medicating you to get over her it may be a deeply routed anxiety that is underlying whats really going on inside of you (?). The fact you are fixated with this woman doesn't help and isn't healthy; You shouldn't be a recluse either. Professional help should be able to find these answers and if not you need to change your meds as they may be over or under medicating the problem because antidepressants are suppose to help you sort your thoughts and calm you down so that you can function normally in whatever you do daily. I wish you the best of luck in finding yourself.
2007-03-04 10:17:18 · answer #2 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, I'm sorry about your heartack, but you and your (X) have been parted for 2years. You are in denial and all that you have left is : a. your life.
b.waking up to a new day each morning
c.you are not a cripl
d.you are not blind,you can see a sunrise,
e.you are not deaf, you can hear music,hear people talk
f. you have your hands and your brain
These are but a "few things that will see you throught." Life is GOOD!!
I'm quite sure your (x) has gotton on with her life. Now it's time to bring your self back.
1.your envirerment can play a great deal to your depresson...so now you need to change your surrounds, and your way of thinking. Since you have ask for HELP THIS SHOWS THAT YOU ARE ON YOUR WAY BACK TO BEING YOU!!
2.join a singles group that has activitys in your area.Speak to your Psychologist and get information on SINGLES GROUPS
THAT HAVE ACTIVITES IN GOING OUT, you will meet new people/friends. Join/sign up for a class at your local trade school for learning a new or second vocation.
3. Do not allow,which you have allowed this negetive thinking of yours to take over your life. Take a positive "out look and know that there is ALWAYS SOMEONE TO WALK WITH IN ALL OUR LIVES," She (your "X") was NOT YOUR PARTNER TO SPEND YOU LIFE WITH!! For now reclam your LIFE AND CONTINUE WITH YOUR PSYCHOLOGIST,JOIN A "SINGLES GROUP,TAKE A COURSE THAT YOU WILL ENJOY,
All the Best
2007-03-04 10:49:00 · answer #3 · answered by star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can try grief very hard and sadly. But after that Keep yrself very busy and occupied with activities or friends. Because there is no point grief over spilled milk after that, time will heal all wounds, i broke up with my gf of 7 years about to get marry in a year time too. Take care my friend.
2007-03-04 09:25:42 · answer #4 · answered by ButterMilkQueso 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you two were obviously not meant to be together, give it up. go out and find someone to talk to. there are girls that have gone through similar things, so atleast then you'd have something in common to talk about. eventually you'll both get tired of hearing about how miserable the other person is and just make the two of you happy all the time.
there are more fish in the sea, use your lure and go find one.
2007-03-04 09:28:49 · answer #5 · answered by quit breathing my useful oxygen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing i can think of for now is for you to seek counseling and therapy for how you are feeling so you can learn to let go of her and of her memory. Obsessing is not a good thing at all. Hopefully over time you will be able to let her memory go and be able to move on with your life.
2007-03-04 09:24:04 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rejection is a bitter pill.You have already put way too much time and energy into someone that has obviously moved on.When something dies you grieve.Know its time to stop wearing black.There are alot of other women out there.
2007-03-04 09:25:06 · answer #7 · answered by april showers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu did the breaking up? That is what is implied in your question. I don't understand why? Could you add that detail? Why did you break up?
Second, move on with your life. Find someone else to be with.
2007-03-04 09:23:14 · answer #8 · answered by goldensparkler61 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get yourself to do new things or learn new stuff.. get yourself occupied so you wouldnt think of her. It's tough but you have to do it if not you cant move on. And who knows you might meet someone.. Like they always say time will heal all wounds.
2007-03-04 09:24:07 · answer #9 · answered by Frost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you''re suffering from is no P U S S Y and that's becase everyone says you have a baby dick.
2007-03-04 09:25:41 · answer #10 · answered by Bobby B 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋