Me and my fiancee have got better lately but I am worried as i know he would want his ex to attend are wedding. But the thing is i dont as he has been known to fall for her again when with his last fiancee, then from the emails he has shown me he wwas madly in love with her and was when we sorta started seeing each other. But he claims he dont have any feelings for her apart from being good friends.
The thing is he is still very protective of her when ever i find out hes been talking to her an dont let me know, as he knows i get upset when he talks to her then never tells me, knowing how i feel about.
And knowing how much he liked her when we met when he kept telling me how good she is and he compared me to her.
Then when he showed me the emails he said "I Dont regret what happened in plymouth" what would you think if you read that on an email?
How would you let him know that you really dont want her to be there?
2007-03-04 01:18:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he classes her as a friend but i dont feel that you can be friends with an ex.
2007-03-04 02:19:39 · update #1
From what you are saying it sounds like he still has feelings for his ex, are you sure you want to marry this guy at this moment in time, I would wait until you are absolutely sure there is nothing more between them. good luck with what ever you decide
2007-03-04 01:24:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiya, Oh i would think strongly about putting your wedding on hold for a while. Yes your relationship has become stronger but he is holding things back from you, and this is not healthy. He should never compare you to his ex he obviously still has feelings for her. It's no use speculating on what happened in Plymouth but i can guess what you are thinking, and until you find out the truth you will be in turmoil. Until he has got her completely out of his system i would put thing's on hold and then he shouldn't want her at your wedding. But if he insists tell him straight that you don't want her there, if he loves you at all he will comply to you, tell him it would hurt your feelings to have her there. Good Luck to you.....
2007-03-04 01:37:05 · answer #2 · answered by kevina p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he still has something for her in his heart...I agree and don't think it's a good idea she come to the wedding* I also don't think You should be getting married if he's still talking about "things with her..the plymouth....etc*...and y ou said he still had a thing for her with his last fiancee* How many times has this guy asked someone to marry him....I guess NO ONE is wanting to marry him as he's not over her yet and doesn't sound like he will be anytime soon. You deserve someone to give you their entire heart* not still hoping and praying someday his heart will be given to you 100%........You need to sit down and talk to him and say "i understand you loved her and will always love her...but you are with me now and I really don't want her at our wedding.......and ask him.....why he still communicates with her via emails etc. Ask him is he seeing her andhoping they can rekindle something? He may get "mad" with you but you can tell him that IF he's MAD at your feelings towards him inviting her to the wedding..then obviously he doesn't care how YOU feel, cuz it's all about HIM and Her. Sorry..but goodluck* I'd be talkin to him straight up before you walk down that isle never knowing for sure if he will ever get over HER* not a good way to start your marriage*
2007-03-04 01:26:52 · answer #3 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seriously put the wedding on hold for a while until you are absolutely sure he is over her. It doesn't sound like he really is. If he is, he would be an open book to you...letting you know he has spoken to her either in person or on the phone. He is still sneaking around which means he will do anything with her if he can, as long as you don't find out. Please put the wedding off. You will only be hurt in the long run if he leaves you after the wedding.
2007-03-04 01:22:42 · answer #4 · answered by judirose2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie let me start this out by saying you can be friends with a ex me and my ex are best friends, we talk everyday but see we have both moved on and let go of each other and yes i love him very much but i am not in love with him we dont do all that lovey dovey stuff like your man and his ex i think that maybe you should have a serious talk with him and tell hi, your feeling and if your suspious which you are then ots probarly a bad sign maybe you should run... remeber without trust there is no realtionship.
2007-03-04 02:49:16 · answer #5 · answered by brown_eyedgurl22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As they didn't have children together , I can't see the point of keeping in touch,especially when it upsets you,your fiancé should take your point.Your wedding has to be a special day for both of you to remember not an occasion for him to see the girl he's been so mad about..He sounds like he didn't really get over her..
2007-03-04 01:29:08 · answer #6 · answered by valerie_adele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come straight out and tell him you don't want her there.
In my opinion, if you're getting married then you should start being honest with him, he should understand your feelings and be able to make changes for you and the two of you should be able to talk and compromise with each other. Otherwise, why are you getting married?
2007-03-04 01:23:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were you id sort his head out.
why should he have his ex at the wedding wen hes with you.
yeah id speak to him allright
its your wedding as much as his also if i were you id have second thoughts about marrying this guy i mean how do you no hes not trying to make you jealous if hes inviting his ex llong.
just tell him straight you dont want her there and thats that
2007-03-04 01:38:32 · answer #8 · answered by thandi p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you for obvious reasons you see her as a threat and if he cared about you enough he would know this and that alone would be enough of a reason to stop seeing or talking to her, involving a 3rd party is too much of a distraction for you and too much of a temptation for him, tell him its you or her if he has got enough sense he will pick you and that will be the end of it but be prepared i mean really prepared for him to choose her he doesn't seem able to let go of her
2007-03-04 03:00:27 · answer #9 · answered by RACHIE-D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him straight that you dont feel right her being there ask him how he would feel if you wanted your ex there.
and if he wont do this for you then you have to think are you marrying the right man coz he would do anything for you if you were the one for him!!!!!!!
2007-03-04 01:50:41 · answer #10 · answered by Sexy lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋