ok i told my bf that i want to break up with him...he said 2 give him another chance to prove hes worth being with. he said give him 3 weeks so that march 19. now hes telling me that if we break up hes going 2 move cuz he hates living with his dad. he says im the only thing keeping him in florida. now i dnt want to keep him here if he hates it here and i know that were not going to last. do you think i should break up with him bcuz i know hes miserable here?
2007-03-04 01:08:38 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
ok you guys...its not that serious. he aint gona kill me if we break up yall dont no what hes been through but the bottom line is he dnt like living with his dad. ok? hes not gona kill himself etha
2007-03-04 01:24:08 · update #1
give him 1more chance...... :)
2007-03-04 01:23:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's blackmailing you into staying with him with that poor, sad, "I'm so miserable, if you leave me I'm moving far far away and you'll never never see me again!" If you encourage this kind of behavior, next he'll be threatening suicide. Tell him that there is nothing he can change or do, you're simply interested in seeing other people, and you'd hate to see him leave, but if he must, then good luck and best wishes and pip-pip. Do not let him manipulate you with this poor pitiful me act. Be strong and stand for what you believe in.
2007-03-04 01:13:28 · answer #2 · answered by Kitten Hood 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should break up with him because he's miserable in Florida. I think you should break up with him because you want to break up with him! Don't keep dating someone because you feel sorry for him, if you know that it's not gonna work out. You've already told him about wanting to break up, so just reiterate your feelings, and that you don't see any point in dragging it out for another 3 weeks. You'll be happier, and he'll be happier wherever he's moving to. Sounds like a pretty good outcome to me...
2007-03-04 01:20:19 · answer #3 · answered by SilentJay76 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to me it seems that he is trying to get you to go back with him through a form of bribery. but it is your choice to give in or not. i honestly think you should break up with him if you don't think the relationship is going to last. if you don't want to be with someone than don't do it. because be live me if he doesn't want to be with you he will leave now. girl let him go where he will be happy and free for someone else to give a chance. and if you mattered so much to him then he wouldn't even have said that thing about living with his father
2007-03-04 03:02:10 · answer #4 · answered by nikka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with everything Yoko Meezer said. Trust me...you don't want to continue on with a guy who uses these tactics. A friend of mine's boyfriend (and she was 34 at the time!) did nearly this exact same thing...."I'm miserable because I want to please you. I'm only doing it for it." And yes, he did threaten to commit suicide (never happened), and he did throw her up against a wall when she finally said, "I'm leaving you."
Well, as it turns out, his wife (before my friend) had divorced him because he was abusive, he was denied any further custody of his child (by the wife) because he was abusive, and he ended up in jail because he abused the girlfriend he had after my friend.
Follow your instincts. Get out while you can.
2007-03-04 01:18:52 · answer #5 · answered by mamasquirrel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to threaten you and manipulate you into not breaking up with him.
If you don't think it is working then break up, it is better for you to be apart and happy than together and sad. If he doesn't want to be here and he says you're whats keeping him here (AND its not working...) then he is probably better off leaving.
2007-03-04 06:31:20 · answer #6 · answered by typoqeen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just trying to force you to feel bad for him so you will stay with him. If you aren't happy then just tell him you are sorry, and things just aren't going to work out.
2007-03-04 01:20:05 · answer #7 · answered by vgleason_102301 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't prolong the inevitable. If you don't think it will last and he is miserable anyway, let him go now.
2007-03-04 02:17:30 · answer #8 · answered by Sluggo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes..i think you should..becuz he shouldnt make you feel that way..if he was any kind of good bf he would stay becuz he wants to stay..sounds like to me he "has" to stay..i wouldnt wanna feel that way..find a guy who does like it there..hope everything works out :)
2007-03-04 01:14:37 · answer #9 · answered by kdm :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up with him hes telling you all these things so u feel sorry for him and won't break up with him!!!!
2007-03-04 07:06:41 · answer #10 · answered by Jenny0305 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him
2007-03-04 02:31:50 · answer #11 · answered by The Heartbreaker. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋