is ther anywhere that any one out there knows of that i can talk to and get help? i love my ex to bits and him leaving me anyway would have been hard enough as it was, but i'm 30 weeks pregnant and its just so much harder than normal. can hardly sleep, don't want to eat, stopped going out and i just don't want to fall into some kinda of depression more than i already have. i'm not after housing or benefit help, but some place to talk to that will understand what im going through. thanks
2007-03-04 00:56:00 · 10 answers · asked by evilbunnyhahaha 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
richeb: does it matter if im married? i'm just asking for help here, not a lecture on how i should be married BEFORE i get pregnant. i don't care for close mined answers, i just needed help
2007-03-06 02:49:16 · update #1
Are u married or just......???
2007-03-04 01:01:16 · answer #1 · answered by richeb 2 · 2⤊ 5⤋
family would be an option, but if you are like me you may not want to do that, I don't always like to go to my family. Friends?? Do you have good friends that will talk to you and help you out?? Is there any kind of free counseling or whatever in your area?
Also, what I do sometimes is just get on my myspace and blog and blog, and just let it get viewed by who I want. I am married now, but when I was younger and went with this guy for the longest and it was over I was just like that. I didn't want to eat, sleep, go anywhere. The funny thing is that I was the one that initiated the break up haha. I would just say, look to friends. Or just keep up with this stuff (posting things to everybody) I do that sometimes as well, when I am down.
2007-03-04 01:08:32 · answer #2 · answered by Brandiibaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will get through it just think of your baby, I became single at just 6 weeks pregnant as the babies father didn't believe in having children but even though it was unplanned i did. Honestly the first few weeks will be a bit hard but once your baby comes along you won't have time to worry about him.
There are services out there to speak to if you speak to your midwife she can point you in the right direction. I didn't need help from them but they were very forth coming with information if I wanted it as a single person.
2007-03-06 22:28:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
believe me u will survive love , but if you can pop to your doctors they will give you some address of some local organisations that can help u . obviously not knowing if u have friends and family around to support u that's about the best advise i can give , maybe worth talking to midwife at your check ups as well to c what support systems are out there . Good luck and look after yourself and your lump . no matter how u are feeling love you need to take care of yourself xx xxx and just for the record i would ignore any negative answers on here they obviously have troubles of there own
2007-03-04 01:06:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a single mother of two boys myself and the best place to get advise and help is perhaps a church, other family and friends. But if you look around your area see if you have a pregnancy resource center or womans health center. Here where I live we have all of those and they help you through many difficult situations. These include but are not limited to your overall health and concerns for you and the new baby to be. Keep your chin up and remember the baby is relying on you to be healthy.
2007-03-04 01:04:19 · answer #5 · answered by kd1771 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, let me say how sorry I am for you - and to ignore all these people that have no compassion for other human beings in their times of need.
Is there any chance of your ex and you reuniting? Do you think it is better to try this or try to move on? Either way, ask friends, family and others for support, be that a shoulder to cry on or physical help because you can't move/lift/etc too much just now.
If you are not sleeping or eating well, visit your doctor and ask for help - this is a horrible thing to go through and they will understand and help.
Finally, try to focus on your baby - you will never be alone ever again once he or she is born. If it helps, think about when he will be born, about clothes, names, etc etc. If you can get yourself happy about this then it will take your mind off things.
I wish you and your baby the best of luck xx
2007-03-04 01:13:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey!! Im not as far along as you, im 17 weeks pregnant but also single...so know how you're feeling, its a lonely place to be isnt it. I think theres a society (uk) where they support single parents. Its called Gingerbread. I think they provide activities to get involved in, which although it takes some effort to motivate yourself to go its probably enjoyable once there! Its got to be better than staying in and getting lower? I should maybe listen to my own advice though as I havent contacted anyone/anything and Im down too. Goodluck to you and hope all goes well x x x
2007-03-04 05:10:14 · answer #7 · answered by doodlebip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your health visitor,mine was fantastic and put me in touch with a few clubs and support groups where the the people there are all in the same position,helped me a lot,i couldn't have got through everything without them
2007-03-04 01:10:34 · answer #8 · answered by mini me 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
if you are in the UK then the salvation army is a fantastic place to go to for help, also your local sure start centre will have lots of info for you. otherwise your midwife or doctor will be able to give you a lot of help. good luck hun xxx
2007-03-04 01:12:58 · answer #9 · answered by angelcakes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some times a good freind to unload it all on helps if like me i worked all through my pregnancy that helped me and talking to freind i left my partner before ifound out as he was cheating on me which was hard as thought he loved me like i did him im a single parent as he does not want to no his child which is sad u will get through it
2007-03-04 01:26:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋