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I am a mother and have finished having my family. My sister in law cannot carry a baby and is desperate for a family. She is an amazing woman with a loving husband. I have done a lot of soul searching and am 100% certain that i could carry her baby for her. I feel that it would be such a rewarding experience for me.And this lady really deserves to have children and will make a awesome mother. I have two questions regarding this....
(A) how would you bring this subject up with your husband. Do you think that is too much to ask of my husband that he watch me carry somone elses child? It is his sister.But i want to make sure that i bring it upproperly and am sure of his feelings. What would we need to consider, for his side of things? I do not want him to end up resenting me for it or for that matter, his sister and brother in law.I should add that we would dearly love to have another child but it is just not finacially possible for us. Will he end up resenting it because of that?

(2) If it is ok with hubby, how do i then bring the subject up with SIL? She has never spoken to me about this. But we have discussed her pain in not being able to be a mother. I would want her to feel confident that we have made a well thought out decission, and that we are 100% sure of that decission. I would hate to upset her about this highly sensitive and personal issue, and am after oppinions on how you would handle this conversation.....What parts do i need to be extra sensitive on etc...Thanking everyone in advance for your oppinions and coments. love and blessings,~**~**~**~*~*

Answer 1

You sit him down and say "You know I love my sister very much and she deserves the kind of family and love that we share with eachother and our children, I would like to carry a child for her so she to can experience the happiness children brought to our lives, what do you think?" Let him answer and if he cares about your sister as much as you do he will say ok.
Now for your sister you tell her the same thing that she deserves to have the love of a child in her life and that you love her enough to carry a baby for her and her husband.
Good Luck and Best Wishes
BTW- I think you are def. an angel sent from heaven!!

Answer 2

All you can do is be honest. You can bring it up subtly first, just see how he reacts to surrogate motherhood. Say, "Why doesn't your sister look into getting someone else to carry a baby for her?"
get his reaction. If he seems alright with it, then ask him how he would feel if she had asked you. If he's ok with it, then between the two of you you can come up with some way of asking the SIL about the whole thing.
I think it's a marvelous idea. I think there would never be a better gift to give your sister-in-law, and the whole family for that matter.

If no one goes for it...still give yourself a pat on the back for being so considerate.
GOod luck!

Answer 3

maybe you could say something like your sister would make a great mother and you know how much she would like to have a baby.....I was thinking maybe I could help out ......

if he is close to her then he would know that this matter hurts her
and he would atleast think about it

but you would also need to make sure you could give her the baby after you were done having the baby

there is the procedure where they can take her egg and his sperm and implant it
would they be willing or having ways to pay for the procedure i think some insurance companies will cover for someone covering the person that is carring the baby for you

she is really lucky to have you in her life for even considering
doing this for her
it shows your an unselfish person

GOOD LUCK IN WHAT YOU DECIDE AND WITH TALKING TO YOUR HUSBAND

Answer 4

I think those are all legitimate questions and you should just be up front with your husband and ask him those things. Honesty is always best.

Good luck :)

Answer 5

I think your an angel god bless. and just be as honest with your husband as you were with us and I am sure he will understand how thoughtful his wife is.