This guy is always in the house, thinking that he is sick and can't work. Had tried to work before but quits at once. Depends on old mother to feed him. He does not do any household chores and instead always reads and rest. He is not concerned with foods, he depends entirely on mother. Mother does house work because it takes this guy to move & does the work only after hours or days. He is really lazy. Any comment, is mother responsible too for this guy's laziness?
2007-03-04 00:34:33 · 12 answers · asked by ellen g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YOu can't change him, only he can do that. Mom should put him out on the street so he can get his act together.
2007-03-04 02:55:44 · answer #1 · answered by Captain Jack 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes mother is responsible his mother should have put him out when he was 18 and made him get a job and it would have shown him responsibility instead of letting him lay around the house now that he is 50 who would hire him with no job skills and this is what is wrong with people theses days the parents don't set good examples..
2007-03-04 08:48:57 · answer #2 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say we are all responsible for our own behaviour.
I wouldn't blame the mother.
But, the mother in some way does support his behaviour.
He is 50 yrs. old and has some kind of phobia building within himself, about failure to do what he needs to do, to be apart of society.
His mother only adds to his fear, in the sense that the issues she complaints about, are that he does not do enough around the house to help her.
From that, he has her acceptance to a certain degree.
But, that is not why he is in the rut that he's in.
It's the little mixed messages she sends him, keep him from moving foward.
2007-03-04 09:42:04 · answer #3 · answered by sweetcitywoman2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The parents are responsible for her son's laziness. I have dealt with this from my father, who barley ever worked, and lived and mooched off of his parents till the day they died. It came to a point where my grandparents were asking me for $ to help out with them, because my father was literally draining their bank account. His mother (my grandmother) would be in the hospital for not taking her insulin, and he wouldn't so much as lift a finger. My mother had never gotten child support. And my grandmother always made excuses for him. She had always done everything for him, therefore inhibiting his ability to do ANYTHING on his own.
2007-03-04 08:49:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he may have emotional problems....maybe he is depressed. I would speak to the mom and encourage her and him to both get counseling. She definitely appears to be an enabler and could use some sound advice from a professional. Sometimes people get into destructive patterns and then they do not know how to get out of the situation. If mom and her son refuse to get help, then there isn't much you can do except remove yourself from the situation if that is possible. Good-luck and remember that emotional problems are real and people do not ask to have them....just like we don't ask for physical problems. They can hurt just as much and do even more damage.
2007-03-04 09:29:06 · answer #5 · answered by ruthdiana2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His mother throughout his fifty years of years has enabled him. She is partly responsible for his laziness. Why do anything when mom will do it for me? However, he is mostly responsible for his own laziness. I assume his mother is an elderly woman so how is she supporting him. This guy is good for nothing excuse for a man. There's not much you can do for him except pity him.
2007-03-04 08:47:29 · answer #6 · answered by Kimmy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i feel she kinda is responsible in a way. She has not taught him how to be responsible and how to take care and support himself because she has done this for him all of his life. Why does he think he is sick and what is he sick with? Go to http://www.drphil.com and email him with this and see what he has to say and offer as advice and help to you in this matter. Good luck. He may also need to see a doctor or therapist as well. Basically he has never had to grow up as mamma babies him. What will happen to him when she passes away?
2007-03-04 09:02:57 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typical asian life style. Parents are only responsible to their kids after 20, Let him out of your house and don't feed him. He just want free rides
2007-03-04 08:58:45 · answer #8 · answered by Arianne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a since yes she is b/c she is letting him get away with it. He would not be doing all this if he couldn't. Its like this, a bully only bullies those he can and moochers only mooche from those they can. So she's going to have to put a stop to it and its not going to be easy since she has already been letting him. WE TEACH PEOPLE HOW TO TREAT US and however you start a relationship out with someone its almost impossible to change it.
2007-03-04 08:55:49 · answer #9 · answered by Dayla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say if you don't get better then were going to have to send you to the hospital and they are going to keep you intill you get better i can't do this ant more or say if you don't get better we will send you to a nuseing home then he will go then for the job send a cute 50 yr old woman to a place in the job part in the news paper and then he will follow
2007-03-04 08:46:25 · answer #10 · answered by katiebug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋