I have a a best friend of 6 years who forgot i exist, I am pretty much his only friend, he's been pretty bad with people, but somehow I get him, and understand him. He's been more like a brother than anything. He got a gf a while back, they've been steady forever. Although i expected it, he dissapeared from my life more and more. After 9 months of not seeing him, he showed up out of the blue at my house, and asked that i take a road trip with him. Everything went fine until i realised the amount of time i hadn't seen him. He's getting married in a couple of months to his now fiancee. I suspected he wanted me to be his best man at the wedding. The more i thought about it, the more furious i got. I didn't want to be some lie to make him look good at his wedding, i would barely call us acquantances now. So i picked up the phone and told him not to talk to me again. But it hurts me since i still think of him like a brother after all this time, so i'm left wondering if i did the right thing
2007-03-04 00:27:01 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yep you probably did have you ever thought maybe he hasn't been in touch as much because he is in love with his wife to be and probably spent lots of precious time with her, anyway phone him ask him why he hasn't bothered until lately with you? Have you ever thought he might genuinely class you as the best friend he has never known and probably felt a little awkward asking you after all this time good luck and i hope you can patch this up :)
2007-03-04 00:49:05 · answer #1 · answered by clare w 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he wasn't there to ask you to be his best man. Maybe he had been doing some thinking and realized he had pushed you aside for his new girlfriend, felt bad about it, and wanted to start including you in his life again. When people are about to get married and their life is about to change big time, sometimes they reevaluate their life. He's probably realized that in the glow of newly being in love he neglected his best friend. If you were as close as it sounds, he is probably feeling really bad right now for letting the two of you grow apart. This could be an attempt to reestablish the friendship. He has maybe realized that you are an important part of his life that he wants back. I would give him a second chance. You could call him and apologize for getting angry, and explain how you feel/have been feeling all this time and see what he says. Good luck to you in whatever you decide.
2007-03-04 14:49:31 · answer #2 · answered by brindlegirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think most men choose their loves over their friends when their loves are new and developing. I think you should examine your feelings. I have a suspicion that you might just be a little jealous that he has found someone and you haven't. You feel left out. You should be honored that he still thought enough of you to ask you to be his best man. If you are a true friend, call him up and apologize. After the honeymoon is over, he'll still need a friend. Another thought, how would you being his best man make him look good at his wedding?
2007-03-08 00:34:09 · answer #3 · answered by teacher sub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you did the right thing he is your best friend that means growing with him in life and adapting to changes. don't think of it as losing a best friend think of it as gaining another family because some day I'm sure he will have kids and he'll want you to be apart of their life, think about how much fun that could be. keep your friend. good ones are hard to find.
2007-03-04 08:55:56 · answer #4 · answered by deedee2qu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's crap when friends forget about you for a girlfriend, it happens all the time. You should tell him that you're really angry with him and ask him what he wants. But don't give up on the friendship completely, because friendships are very important.
2007-03-04 08:32:00 · answer #5 · answered by Katrina W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋