Nobdy wants me back, neither my family nor my society after my divorce. evrybdy feels shame bcoz i hv got divorce, this is what we call our culture. Now i dnt know whr should i go. m so much dipressed. my husband cheated me so badly, i dnt know what to do to survive?
2007-03-04 00:12:39 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are millions of people who are not accepted by their family- make your own family out of new friends. I enjoy not haviing a family, I go to comedy clubs and stuff like that.
2007-03-04 00:16:08 · answer #1 · answered by joey k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were treated badly then good on you for getting divorced. It must be hard for you now everyone has turned their back on you but you did the right thing. I don't know what culture you are from but I am sure there are many others who have been disowned for divorcing their husbands. I would imagine that if you look on the internet there is a support group up and running.
Please keep in mind that there are other people who you can befriend and that you did the right thing. I hope you can find a support group. REMEMBER THIS IS THE START OF A HAPPY LIFE FOR YOU AND YOU DID THE RIGHT THING.
2007-03-04 08:47:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in fact experiencing the same as you. are mrs x. When I left my marriage after nearly 40 years, my whole family flipped, including my grown children and mother.and sister. They could not understand what I was doing. And all I did was asking them to respect my decession and that the reasons were between my x and me. I do not want to talk badly about him in front of anyone. Because he is now a completely different person, and I dont want him to be as lonely as I have been all these years I He is in a good relationsship with our children, and he was not present at all more than as a very good breadwinner when they grew up. No feelings. Now its is flowing over! Our friends disappeared too. I suppose "our culture" means something else than the one we have in Norway? Religious reasons mabe? I hope every day, and there is nothing else to do. Hope and try to cope.
2007-03-04 13:06:32 · answer #3 · answered by unanski 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you could find work as an Au Pair. I am not sure about how this works but I imagine that it would be the easiest way to stay in the Uk / USA. You would not earn much money, but would receive food and shelter. That way, if you could stay in the UK for long enough, you may meet a decent British man who will marry you for "real" and you would avoid the shame of returning to you own country.
Where are you now?
2007-03-07 08:00:22 · answer #4 · answered by del-d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then live your life without them and move on. You just may have to move out of that culture to do so. Have you sought counseling and help for your depression or have you seen a doctor or therapist for how you are feeling? If i were you i would move away from the culture and never move back and i would seek help to heal from what has happened. Good luck to you and here comes hugs your way. Yes i definitley feel there is alot of hope left for you and for your life.
2007-03-04 08:54:07 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were right to divorce a cheater, and you family is so wrong. But often the right thing is the hardest thing. Move on, start a new life. Have pride that you have been true to yourself and if no one else is treating you like a person of value, at least you have self respect.
2007-03-04 08:26:07 · answer #6 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off no matter how hard it is throw yourself into work. Go to the gym. Working out releases endorphines. The feel good hormone. Forget about the stigma that society has about divorce. You did was best for you. Dont let anyone bring you down. !!!You should be proud of yourself.
2007-03-04 08:18:30 · answer #7 · answered by Tia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey u dont need to feel like that, if your marriage did not work nobody should expect you stay in something that is making both parties sad. i am sure deep down your family cares deeply for you but are too scared to say. u need to talk to them and tell them everything that has gone off. reading between the lines you must be from a different culture but even so they should understand if they love you. i am sure there is someone out there for you.. it will get better
good luck
2007-03-04 08:25:30 · answer #8 · answered by mark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dipressed eh? The number of personal violations you can expect is infinite. A custom tailored ration of trash, aimed at making your life miserable. Killing yourself would just make him, and his friends, happy. Your going to survive if you like it or not. Use your time with trepidation, becoming anxious with fear will bring you down faster than heat stroke. Get busy, go to school. And don't expect anybody to let you hang around , especially if your morose, and broken hearted. You may require some therapy to regain your sense of humor.
2007-03-04 08:50:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hello, no matter where you are or what you do, there IS always hope for each one of us.. divorce is embaressing for any one, regardless of who was at fault..maybe you are from India,or Pakistan or some foreign country that still has old fashioned cultures.. just keep pushing your life forward and you will succeed in everything, but you did not mention children,,so i assume you are still vry yong woman now.. you have many chances to make a good life for your self now.. never return to people who reject you or are ashamed of you..
2007-03-04 08:39:35 · answer #10 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋