She says that Sex is all i want but its not, We got married on the 23rd of January and she hasnt slept with me since.. its not all that i want out of us and i have made that clear, but i cant go forever without it either... what do i do? im not going to leave her and im not going to cheat but i need the intamacy and love making?
2007-03-04 00:03:14 · 18 answers · asked by Joseph S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Things to do:
*** see if there is emotional damage that doesn't allow her to connect here
** examine you behavior throughout the day- are you setting the mood all day or just ignoring her and then wanting to jump in the sack the minute the lites go out
** remember that for many women, one of the most romantic things may be that you also clean, do laundry, wash dishes, etc. This indicates that you see her work/role as important and validates her.
** spicing it up in the bedroom is all about technique- ignore those folks as they see sex as mere strategy, cool moves, techniques and bluster w/o real love and compassion
** if you need techniques, consider books on Tantric sex, 100 nites of great lovemaking, 52 weeks of great sex, etc.
Finally, this issue is to serious to be asking on Yahoo Answers... most advice here will be very poor. See a therapist as your marriage may be at risk.
Good luck!
2007-03-04 00:09:04 · answer #1 · answered by Wisdom??? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe the first tym she had was very painful which is normal though.try explain that to her that the hymen is broken the first tym and its always painful.it may also be that she had bein havin sex before she met u and it was not done well so she never liked it. it culd also be that u neva gave her pleasurable experience when u did it with. pls u need to talk to her over this, let her understand that with tym it will be nice and learn to make her acheive orgasm.
also, women emotion prior to sex is very important, treat her well, let her feel like a queen, give her emotional talks and put her in the ryt mood, she will surely feel she owes u one, that is sex. do it ryt and let her enjoy it and she will be all yours. OR take her to see a conselor
2007-03-04 08:23:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to be spontanious, dont act like sex is the only thing on your mind. try going out and doing different things together maybe going for a romantic meal or a quiet drink to help her relax a little. it is a possibility that it did hurt the last time that you did make love and maybe she is just too embarrassed to say. try to talkthis through but explain to her that you will always want to be with her and nobody else and that you will be patient with her as much as you would like her to understand your needs.
good luck i hope you guys work it out
2007-03-04 08:25:03 · answer #3 · answered by mum of 2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would have to make it very clear that sex is not the only thing but is does play an importance in a long happy life with the same mate;as well, as bringing you both closer as a married couple. i would confront his head on { no pun intended} . you both have to be part of solution,timing.etc
2007-03-04 08:22:07 · answer #4 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and explain that to her. FInd out what she needs to feel loved. Maybe she needs to be held with knowing that sex won't be an issue. Try to hug her and kiss her and be a best friend to her, but let her know you want to be her lover too.
2007-03-04 08:07:25 · answer #5 · answered by pixie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First be friend with her, talk her night in starting and then slowly slowly explain her... but as yiu said ur marriage had been 23 rd jan that seem she is suffering frigid syndrome... frankly speaking take her to good counciller
2007-03-04 15:38:57 · answer #6 · answered by drimransaifi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women usually have a sex drive they mostly force themselves to do it or they do it out for their spouse. Their genetic build supports their lack of desire. If this woman does not give in to you
that shows she has no feelings for your needs and you will have to move on to find what you need.
2007-03-04 08:12:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats realality dude, Wedding cake kills sex drive, you'll probably never get a ******** again either. I fight this same fight everyday. I started a log b/c she thinks she does give in and I shouldn't feel rejected but since december I've scored on less then 35% of my attempts.
Goes to show why internet **** is so populat
2007-03-04 08:10:19 · answer #8 · answered by Answerman 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hang on, work with her, hold her, cuddle her. do not force her. She will come around for sure. Be patient and give her some space. Let her talk to her friends and learn that sex is fun!
2007-03-04 08:20:55 · answer #9 · answered by nice guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to understand that no marriage can succed without sex.
try to find out if she has some inhibition or bad experience of the past which is preventing her to lead normal life.
2007-03-05 02:15:06 · answer #10 · answered by Kumar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋