What happened to in sickness andhealth til death do us part?
Is it so easy to just quit?
2007-03-03 23:33:23 · 17 answers · asked by Ann S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree, I feel that the "outs" are too easy. Everyone is too selfish and lazy to put the work in a marriage to make it work. The relationships would be much more fulfilling is people would work on their problems instead of running as soon as a problem arose. My husband had an affair (long story) but even if I had left it would not have changed the fact that he cheated and I was hurt. He was remorseful and we still loved each other very much. We went to counseling and have worked really hard. Our relationship has reached a ompletely new level. We no longer take each other or our marriage for granted. The respect we have for each other for sticking it out and fighting is overwhelming at times. And the icing on the cake...Our son, has two loving parents...that love each other very much. I am so glad we didnt just 'quit'. We took the road less traveled and the payoff is tremendous. Now, we came back from something very devastating, lots of couples give up over things a lot less important. I do not understand.
2007-03-03 23:42:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marrage is part time, and no longer the 110% apiece relationship that it once was. People do not want to grow out of childhood. Everything is done to keep people childish. It's rumored that the average length of time for a friendship is about 4 years. Marrage isn't doing much better. In California, the standard is based by the Elizabeth Taylor model. Everybody gets eight. Marrage based upon being cozy with God, till death does you part, leave out that there are things worse than death. Only the photo's last forever. And for those of us, wounded out there by divorce, for some of us, it aint at all easy to quit. It's one more defeat.Good luck
2007-03-04 01:24:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know who this "everyone" is that believes this. We certainly don't.
The institution of marriage is just as healthy as it's ever been, it's just that there are more people out there that have little or no idea what committment means.
The funny part about it is that "marriage" is a minor detail once you have a feeling of trust and committment between two people. It's the strength of the relationship and the emotional maturity of the couple that matters. Once you have that, the rest is just a ring, a licence and a ceremony.
It's not the "legality" that keeps people together; it's the love.
2007-03-04 00:13:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone does, just the ones on the news. All you have to do is see the husbands and wives on the cancer wards to know that's not true. But they don't make news, Nick and Jessica do.
Its not easy to quit a marriage, its heartbreaking and hard on the kids and families, but sometimes it is necessary and has to be done. Mostly people quit over cheating and money. In other words, the vows have been broken by one party and the damage done to the marriage was fatal.
2007-03-03 23:55:48 · answer #4 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone has this idea of marriage. However, society has allowed this to be acceptable practice. Divorce is very easy to obtain. And commitment has become less existent among many within society. The values and ideas of marriage are quite different then they were 50 years ago. Have a wonderful day, God bless****
2007-03-03 23:38:30 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone feels this way hon. My husband and i believe in til death do you part and in sickness and in health forsaking all others as long as you both shall live. Some people think it is easy to quit But it should not be so. When you marry you should live by the vows you have promised to each other. If you cannot live by them then why say them to each other in the first place in front of God and family and friends. It is lying if you do not mean those vows from your heart when you are saying them. The sad part is anymore it is just as easy to divorce as it is to get married and this should not be the way it is. JMHO. God will not smile on people who lie in front of him and to him when they cannot live up to what they vow to each other on their wedding day.
2007-03-04 00:49:39 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to know the answer to that myself. My daughter is 25 and on her second marriage and is about to end that one too, not to mention go back to the first one, and he was a loser too! I can only assume that they meant it at the time, but young people today just don't have that stick to itiveness like they used to, they quit too easy, I think unless theres a case of physical abusive, the courts shouldn't allow these couples to get divorced so easy without seeking counseling first, after all in the Catholic Religion you have to get counseling before you get married, and theres only rare circumstances in which they will allow divorces too. I think someone in the judicial system needs to get some form of post marital counseling in place and put a stop to all of these displaced and unhappy children and broken homes. It's always the little one who have to suffer the most!
2007-03-03 23:43:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NAH ***** i think marriage is a commitment but marriage is A HUGE HUGE PART in your life and you shouldnt decide at such a young age marriage should be good when you know youve done everything possible such as going to college and having a great career because when you decide to have a wife you have to realize that you have big responsibillitys now such as bills and rent and then comes kids , your in charge of your wife and kids and you should have a stable carrer first , marriage is not something to take for granted or something to play with its A HUGE COMITMENT
2007-03-03 23:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by Jason 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. Alot of people divorce because they get tired, lost interest, or just plain want to date other people. And that is wrong! A marriage isnt fun and games, but its hard work. And marriage is a blessing if you make it that way.
Divorce should only be in the right mind if someone is cheating.
2007-03-03 23:37:10 · answer #9 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, not "everyone" feels that way because I do not and neither does my husband to be.
The world has made it very easy to quit or give up on marriage for sure, but it was always intended to be for life...no matter what. The world is becoming a crazy place.
Anyway, wanted to let you know there are two (my man and myself) of us out here who are in it for the rest of our lives...no matter what may come.
I hope you find that someone for yourself!
be cool...
2007-03-03 23:41:01 · answer #10 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋