I found out my husband cheated on me when we were dating. He hooked up with other girls and checked out on girls too. Our daughter is 5 month old. My hus. told me he lost interest in sex since I gave birth. He still asks for it but doesn't want to touch me. I know he doesn't love me or care for me like he said. Living with his family I found out we really need our privacy as a new family but he wants to live with his family forever. I told him we could always help even we don't live wit them but he still say no. I even asked him to move to next door but "NO" is still the answer. I know he loves his daughter a lot, he said " I can't live without her, I love her more than anything" I can't separate them. What can I do?
thanks
2007-03-03 23:31:31 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I brought my daughter wit me to my mother's place once. He begged me to go back bcause he can't live without his daughter. Promised he'll change, he's now changed but not in everything. Still place his family on first and always says "I love my daughter the most". I'm glad and happy he does but what about me? He told me " I miss my parents" on the night his parents went to Vietnam. they went back to Vietnam to visit his grandmother for six weeks.
2007-03-03 23:54:03 · update #1
I brought my daughter wit me to my mother's place once. He begged me to go back bcause he can't live without his daughter. Promised he'll change, he's now changed but not in everything. Still place his family on first and always says "I love my daughter the most". I'm glad and happy he does but what about me? He told me " I miss my parents" on the night his parents went to Vietnam. they went back to Vietnam to visit his grandmother for six weeks.
2007-03-03 23:54:37 · update #2
I know sex is also important marriage life but nothing is more important ty happy than my daughter. I brought her into this world and it's my responsibility to give her the best. Will she be perfectly happy without a parent?
2007-03-04 00:00:38 · update #3
What do you mean, "you can't separate them"? What kind of love is he showing his daughter by disrespecting her mother (you) like that? Is that what you want her growing up thinking is a proper way to be treated? She'll learn from you that being mistreated is 'normal' and that's the kind of relationship she'll eventually find herself in.
No, it's not easy and you're in a difficult situation, but because you're responsible for another life right now, it's up to you to decide what is and isn't acceptable. That should have been figured out before you got married, but since it wasn't, you'll just have a harder time making good decisions for your daughter, but it's not impossible. You can't let your situation control your ability to make good choices.
2007-03-03 23:47:57 · answer #1 · answered by Bobbie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you are dealing with this. The two of you need to sit down and talk. You now have a family, not just the two of you in this marriage but the three. Remember what brought the two of you together, what made you fall in love, what brought the two of you to this commitment. And then work from there. Perhaps consider some marriage counseling. Good luck and God bless****
2007-03-04 07:42:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want you, do you need to be hit over the head? Yes, you can separate them. He can still have visitation. Think of your daughter, do you think she should grow up in such a dysfunctional house hold without love? If she does, she'll end up in a relationship like yours. If you leave, she is not going to be loved any less by either of you.
2007-03-04 07:44:25 · answer #3 · answered by QT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave him and let him have visitation.
sounds like he is kinda psycho to me
be cool...
2007-03-04 07:42:41 · answer #4 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋