my husband has confessed me that he thinks he is BI and he has tell me about his one nite stand with a girl rite before we meet and stuuf about he's past relationships and i dont have a problem with none of that i even try to find a bi guy for a 3some u know and he told me after his conf. tha he never thought he cud tell his wife about it ,and from now onhe would tell me anything like if he sees someone cute in the street, he even told me that he used to have a "crush" before he met me, with this girl that we r kinda close & i dont have a prob with that either but theres is this girl at work that i think he likes cuz i think he turns to look at her too much and she is not cute at all che is the fem version of beettlejuice and im being serious , and for some reason i thnk something happend at work with her and i asked him and he said i would be te 1st one to know evenbefore he cheats on me, but for some rason i cant belive that what do i do? i dont wanna lose him either
2007-03-03 23:28:09 · 8 answers · asked by lola_6490 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're in the midst of very dangerous waters. Not wise to "look" for another person for your husband and not wise that you'll do "anything" to keep him with you, even at the cost of you being unhappy.
No matter what you want...no matter what you do, he's not going to be faithful to you. How can he even respect you when you'll just roll over like a dog?
Ugh...
You need to drop him and work on your self esteem. Truly....
2007-03-03 23:34:55 · answer #1 · answered by ~Me~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even before he cheats on you ? listen to what he is telling you.Sounds like a very "open" relationship, how would he feel if you were to say the same about every male you pass together on the street ? Perhaps talk to the woman from work, inviteher for a coffee.He needs to make you feel safe, he needs to pull his finger out, it is a two way street, takes work from you both.Try marriage counseling together.
2007-03-04 07:37:45 · answer #2 · answered by mother hen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband sounds like a maniac and I believe your love for him is strong. However, finding out all this new information is beginning to overwhelm your sense of decency and right and wrong. If I were you I would separate from him for a while and try to regain a sense of WHO YOU ARE. I really think you have lost touch with yourself.
And there is no shame in divorcing someone who betrayed you from the very beginning.
2007-03-04 07:36:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have already done it...you opened the door for your husband to have any relationships outside of your marriage when you accepted the first one. Now he knows he can go be with anyone and even tell you about it...jeese, what ever happened to monogamy?
It is your doing that he has this freedom...sorry...now you are the one who is gonna have to live with it.
2007-03-04 09:52:24 · answer #4 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get real with yourself.
He told you everything ,now heres where it get tricky have you told him everything?
Have you cheated and reflecting it on your marriage by saying it you not me?
Get rid of the Idea of 3sum, because 3sums have a way of making 2sums 1 sums.
Time to grow up and get rid of your "peter pan", meets "jerry springer" attitudes!
Grow up and stop indulging your fantasy's!
2007-03-04 07:53:48 · answer #5 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband says he thinks he's bi in order to shock you into leaving him. From what you say it seems obvious he is looking to have affairs with other women. I think your marriage is over.
2007-03-04 07:40:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is being honest with you so trust him to tell you first. I suggest counseling.
2007-03-04 15:46:26 · answer #7 · answered by Li 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be his pimp.
2007-03-04 08:32:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋