Well im going out with this wonderful WONDERFUL girl but i think she deserves better than me shes changed my life turned my life around like you wont believe shes literally CHANGED me but i havnt done anything that big to her and i tried to leave her b4 but she said these sweet things like she couldnt leave me or not to leave her or she wouldnt be able to go on without me and A LOT of SWEET things that made me stay with her but i REALLY REALLY think she deserves someone better! and i made a foolish mistake when i got back with her cuz she said "promise me you'll never leave me" and i promised but i KNOW she deserves better, so how in the hell do i tell her ??i admit that i use to play women and be a stupid lil player but shes changed me, the moment i met her she made me look @ women diffirently she made me c how messed up it was to cheat on women and how only somebody stupid and foolish will do such a thing but i havnt done anything this amazin to her so she deserves better HELP PLEASE
2007-03-03 22:36:22 · 6 answers · asked by Jason 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
So, why the hell do you want to abandon her now?!! What is the matter with you??? I bet it's because you really haven't changed at all. You just don't want to cheat on her, right? Is that it? Because I know this - you can't change anyone but yourself, therefore, it is not her that changed you. Either you wanted to change, and you did with her guidance possibly, but she did not change you. Have you really changed? Because if you really did, it doesn't make any sense why you want to leave her. You aren't very intelligent, are you.
Have a great day.
2007-03-03 23:00:22 · answer #1 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wake up and see the truth before you ruin your life and hers. She thinks you are wonderful so why do you think she has such bad tase or no sense in picking you. Stop running yourself down. If you really believe she deserves someone better than you, BE A BETTER YOU. What do you think is lacking in you? Work on improving it. If she has her heart set on you, get on your knees, thank God and make yourself change even more so that you are the sort of person you think she deserves. What she wants is you its you that has the problem so you are the one that can fix it. If you cannot see yourself as she does, make more changes, improve on your supposed short comings until even you think you are worthy of her. You already are, she knows it, now you must know it. Frankly that is a very silly reason to toss away what sounds like the love of your life especially when she loves you back. Don't blow this man.
2007-03-04 06:44:10 · answer #2 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She deserves better? She doesn't seem to think so. This girl likes you despite your former self. That is something. It's sweet that you think she deserves better. The word of strangers doesn't really mean much, but if you tell your girlfriend that you think she deserves better, she'll set you straight.
On second thought, maybe you're feeling guilty that you do so little for her? Don't think that. Some day she'll have her bad times (no one is perfect) and you'll be able to repay her. Until then, treat her like the kind girl she is. Even many little deeds can take the place of one big deed.
2007-03-04 07:30:12 · answer #3 · answered by ♫ Melody 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you feel kinda creeped out by the fact that she's helped you so much and you don't really want to feel like you'll have to owe her for her good deeds for the rest of your life. Nothing wrong with that but at least be straight with her.Just because she helped you a lot in your time of need doesn't give her the right to ask you not to leave her. It almost makes me wonder if she did all that just so you'd feel like you owe her therefore you wouldn't leave her.Sometimes there just isn't a way to pay someone back for the nice things that they've done for you. You should only stay with this woman if you really and truly love her and want to be with her, not out of guilt, and not just because she wants you to.If you were all that happy in the relationship you wouldn't be concerned about what to do.Be straight with her if you don't want to spend the rest of your life with her because even if she doesn't know it right now she's settling for less in life not being with someone who REALLY loves her the way she deserves to be loved.She's obviously a very giving person, but sometimes givers are unhealthy in their desire to help others.If you do really love her and want to pay her back as you said then be a loyal& loving man and stick with her through thick and thin.
2007-03-04 07:16:01 · answer #4 · answered by Yahooanswerssux 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Same thing happened to me and I felt the exact same way you feel. The best advice I can give you is to realize that even your little angel has her breaking point. If you hurt her too much with your insecurities, she will eventually turn to someone else for comfort, out of desperation, or she will just call it quits with you. And when an angel calls it quits, it's over.
I certainly understand how you feel, but it's time to suck it up and realize the gift you've been given. Stop using your "poor pitiful me" pickup line on her, us and yourself and just love her back. If you can do that, then you deserve her. if you can't, you will surely lose her.
2007-03-04 06:57:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jason, Ol' Buddy! You've got an Angel, wanting to show you Love. INSPITE your mistakes! Whatz up? No one is ever "Too Good" for someone else. You're just being given a 2nd Chance. This may be your chance at real Happiness. Show her that you're a Real Man, from now on. Love isn't something to just walk away from. God's Love to you & her.
2007-03-04 06:43:42 · answer #6 · answered by Goggles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋