I really love this gerl. been my bestest friend since the last 2 years. she is really beautiful and always get noticed by men around her. i was attrated too. but not like other guys. this other guys jjust want to have sex with her. i am worried as she is still young. in fact, that happened when we stayed out of contact for a few months. at that point, she even had a boyfriend yet lost her virginity to another bastard who is older than her n had sex with her twice. i was shocked. recently, i caught her drinkin. i sat down with her and her sister n gave her that look. she wasn't suppose to drink at all. she got so drunk i saw the other side of her. other than polite, she shouted at strangers to keep it quiet, askin them to hurry up. intead of being shy she was playing around. she is a real beauty inside and out. just wondered what is happening to her. i am so disturbed that she already lost her virginity which is a sin yet drinks! how do i get her to change and love me? i reali luv her!
2007-03-03 22:35:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
she is nice. really. jus dat she is exposed to this bad stuff. wen she gt drunk it was as if she had a split-personality.
2007-03-04 00:50:32 · update #1
hey just let her know how you feel and that you are concerned for her. As people get older they change and explore certain things but you wold be a great friend if you were there for her especially to help keep her grounded. She may not appriciate it now but she will sometime down the road. Just continue to be her friend....you may realize that she is not the one for you. You'll be surprised you may find someone that really apprieciates you.
2007-03-11 03:41:07 · answer #1 · answered by stunna3m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you understand what you just wrote? You said "she is a real beauty inside and out". Are you sure? She sure doesn't sound like it.
You can't change her and get her to love you. That would be her choice to make, not yours.
Try to re-read what you posted and look at it as though you're reading a stranger's post. Then you might get over your delusions and see her for the person she is.
In response to your add'l details:
Dude, seriously. She has the capability of making choices for herself. She's not being manipulated by anything outside of her control. You can't fix her, but go on ahead and try. Years from now, hear me when I say "I told you so".
2007-03-04 08:01:09 · answer #2 · answered by Bobbie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you shouldn't do anything with this girl but always make sure your there for her all the time whenever she needs you and give her your opinion obviously but sometimes when a person has got problems they need people to just be there to talk to and not to be talked at.... aaawww i really feel for you if you love her because i love my best boy mate and i worry aboput him aswell .. i have learnt now though that by just being there is better than nagging him...
i hope it works out for you hunii xxxx
Good luck xxx Rach xxx p.s- not an easy situation to be in i know
2007-03-04 09:02:17 · answer #3 · answered by *!*Rach H*!* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you love her as a friend ? or love her as in deeply in love ? coz i think it's blinding you to the point that you might be tackling a very sensitive issue here.... yeah the " sex " part of it. Do you really love her for who she is no matter what even if involves her having sex with others before ? will you beable to accept this fact and not take it against her ? what she do with her life is her own decision ? you can be there as a friend and just be supportive, but if you think and really feel that you love her, it's gonna take a whole lot more from you to be able to prove that ! good luck man, hope she is who you're really looking for in a mate.
2007-03-12 00:52:57 · answer #4 · answered by oki doki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can ever do to change a girl's love and expect her to love you. There are really 2 choices, continue to wait patiently around her or just let it go.
2007-03-12 01:32:20 · answer #5 · answered by ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to accept the facts if you love her. Show her your love and concern, in order to win her heart. Sometimes, it's fate.
2007-03-09 09:24:59 · answer #6 · answered by LucKY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may have a drinking problem or the beginning of one. Talk to her about it.
2007-03-11 03:27:05 · answer #7 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really are her 'best friend' give her a reality check. drinking only makes her look like a ****. if you only think you're her best friend, then it's time to get over it and move on.
2007-03-12 00:59:17 · answer #8 · answered by nathan y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant make anyone change either love her for who she is or just let her go
2007-03-12 04:10:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're just bitter she didnt sleep with you.. whats it any of your business...from what i gather, she'd be young and enjoying herself... stop being a partypooper
2007-03-08 11:21:18 · answer #10 · answered by ilovecokeacole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋