She is 11 weeks gone, since she found out she was pregnant, she has been to work twice, once she stayed till 10am, once till lunchtime. My brother is working all of the hours god sends, then coming home, bathing their 7yr old, feeing her and putting her to bed etc etc.
Now she has decided that she doesnt want anyone to buy her anything useful for the baby, eg sterilisers, she just wants clothes from Next and toys. They have just taken an £8,000 loan to cover the costs.
I think she is being very unreasonable, and i dont want to spend my money on something that the baby will grow out of in weeks.
Does anyone have any advice on what I can do?
2007-03-03 21:31:03 · 22 answers · asked by mrssandii1982 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Hmmm difficult one (oh hi by the way, you answered my older man question yesterday!!!) it does seem like shes being unreasonable....what does your brother think to it all? I think you should go ahead and buy what you want, after all a gift is a gift, not something you should be able to pick and choose.....how ungrateful !!!! Goodluck, and congats on grabbing byourself an older fella...you go girl!!!
2007-03-03 22:32:26 · answer #1 · answered by doodlebip 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I won't comment on her general attitude but as far as the gifts go, why do you have such a problem with buying a cute outfit? That's what aunties are for! I am having a baby soon as some of my friends are going on about buying me something 'practical'. I don't want anything practical! I am perfectly capable of buying the necessities myself and if someone does want to buy me a gift I would rather it was something fun and cute.
Otherwise it's a bit like it being someone's birthday and buying them some new dusters or socks or deoderant! Where's the fun in that!! Babies need clothes just as much as they need other things. Yes, they will grow out of them, but that's what babies do and the outfit doesn't have to be expensive. You can pick up lovely little outfits for £10 in Tescos, whereas a steriliser costs £60, so that's 6 outfits you could buy and you could get different sizes and they would last for ages!
2007-03-04 21:00:35 · answer #2 · answered by Ricecakes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your sister in law is an adult and you or nayone cant tell her how to behave and how not to behave. I dont agree with her behaviour and attititude but I have to be honest and say that there is little anyone can do. You could have a word with your brother, make sure that he is ok but ultimately he must be relatively happy with the situation or he would do something about it. If they have taken out an £8000 loan then I think they will have enough money to buy all the essentials aswell as clothes and toys. Once baby is born buy someting like a foot or hand print set, this is a present that will be a lifetime memory. good luck
2007-03-04 06:13:08 · answer #3 · answered by thedaddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow an £8K loan....what the hell for??? That's allot of money and I can't see what it can all go on, unless she's thinking designer gear???
I'd steer clear, you'll never win in this situation and your brother won't thank you for it, if she's as bad as all that she's probably got your bro rapped round her finger.
I would get something sentimental for the baby like a kit to make a plaster cast of the baby's foot and hand. Failing that then some vouchers but I agree that getting clothes isn't the nicest or the best present to get.
She sounds like a 24 carat nightmare but she still has time to change her mind and be reasonable but really it's only your bro that can so anything about this, he needs to put his foot down.
I hope things work out for you.
2007-03-04 05:04:46 · answer #4 · answered by Bugs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah some women think that pregnancy is an illness. I never missed a day off work, even though my morning sickness lasted the whole nine months and went on all day.
Get her a voucher for Next, and she can do what she wants with it. the cheek of her. they have taken out a loan to cover what costs? Unless it's to pay the bill for a private hospital, I don't know what they need all that for. Ignore her.
2007-03-03 22:00:52 · answer #5 · answered by marie m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiya, Some women treat pregnancy as an illness, yes they can be ill but in a lot of pregnancies the women just sail through. What i would do is to just buy her vouchers so they can get what they want for the baby, i would only give them to her though when she has had the baby. Good Luck to you you have another 6 months putting up with her...............
2007-03-03 21:43:42 · answer #6 · answered by kevina p 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well being pregnant 4 times myself i feel i have a little experience on the matter. She sounds like a little bit of a pain but remember pregnancy can be tiering. as for not wanting any thing practical thats just silly i am grateful for any thing people buy for me as its the thought that counts. She should try and carry on as normal and not put her every day things on hold ,your brother would tell her if he thought she was taking the piss would'nt he ? I think in this situation just be there for your brother in case he needs some body to let of steam too and as for the presant buy what you want to buy and she should be grateful. Good luck.
2007-03-03 21:42:08 · answer #7 · answered by rachrara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately it doesn't sound like an ideal situation and if she continues to take time off the company may start her maternity leave early/give her disciplinarys etc. As for taking out an 8k loan for a new baby its madness however, I am afraid that it is between your brother and his wife, would you like them inter fearing in your relationship? Probably not. Be there for your brother - it sounds like he will need a friend!
2007-03-03 22:09:04 · answer #8 · answered by lovelylittlemoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont buy her anything !
Just send the baby a £10 gift voucher for Next.
Keeps the peace with the family and your brother
.Dont forget, he needs your support as hes got to put up with her 24/7, bless him.
2007-03-03 21:42:50 · answer #9 · answered by gadriel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not sure if you have children or not so not sure if you know where she's coming from. Especially with pregnancies when you already have children at home it can be more tiring and often second pregnancies (or more) are worse. Give her a bit of time and then talk again once the first trimester has finished and she's feeling a bit more with it.
2007-03-04 00:06:52 · answer #10 · answered by aza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋