he works from morning 7 to night 8 and when ever he gets time he want to spend it outside with friends or his relatives and he dont want to stay at home. he never sit and talk to me even if he is at home he watches movie. i feel very lonely. he always fight for small reasons and had a habit of talking to all the girls which i dont like. doing sms and receiving sms. But he always says that he loves only me. and there is no one in his life but when goes out without informing me i get doubt on him. please help me i am very confused and worried.
2007-03-03 21:02:43 · 7 answers · asked by hamnas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
actually there should be lots of love in the beginning of marriage and the first few years of marriage is very important for a girl . men us ally losses interest to talk when he is reaching his 7yrs of marriage or when children's are born as they take lots of time .try to find out if he really loves you husband should talk to their wife and not sms others and hurting your feelings try talk to him calmly and solve the doubt as by talking you could know the inner of ones mind take care and don't worry
2007-03-03 21:12:37 · answer #1 · answered by %0oi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husbands cousin had the exact thing happen to her and she ended up divorcing him, she tried talking to him several times, and even threatened him, but he just was happy in his own world leaving her out. So I don't know if you may get over this, it depends if your husband is easy to talk to, listens to you and if he'll change easily into your kind of routines, you may need to think seriously of your relationship, even stay at some relatives house or hotel and let him feel what its like not having you there- you can only try.
2007-03-04 05:56:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a toughy...those are some long hours. You gotta respect what he's doing there. Same time, you gotta let him know your issues. If he won't listen to them...then you gotta move on.
I'm not married, but i know my dad was semi the same...not quite. He is a doctor and landed an awesome job..promised 8 of my cousins to send them to college...then got canned. So he'd be up at 5 and work till midnight...doing whatever to send them to school and make ends meet. Liven on a matress and had to sneak garbage to the local mall at night. My mom went from being a princess to taking care of 9 men. Not entirely what she signed up for. She stuck by him and life got better.
If you really think he's cheating..do the standard sniff tests. BUt yeah, gotta give him some relax time, but let him know your issues. Until he gets a raise, i doubt he'll change much.
2007-03-04 06:03:21 · answer #3 · answered by My name is not bruce 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need a one-on-one chat with him. Let him know your frustrations. Remember to keep your temper down. If you don't receive any satisfactory answers/opinions/solutions from this chat I'm afraid you've lost the marriage. Move on from there and get a life of your own. Be strong for yourself.
2007-03-04 05:09:51 · answer #4 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know straight up how you feel...encourage an honest relationship...since he likes going out, be the one to ask him out then...and if things get heated, remember to quiet down and be calm...one of you should at least be the calm one during any disagreement...but for now, you should continue to trust him if you don't have any hard evidence that he may be unfaithful....inform him of what a husband is supposed to be like because apparently he's forgotten! i wish you the best okay..stay strong :)
2007-03-04 05:58:33 · answer #5 · answered by shine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he want to stay married, then he need to start talking to you.
If that doest work then tell him straight up that if thing don't change you'll be getting a divorce , and find someone who will take the time to enjoy you.
2007-03-04 05:07:39 · answer #6 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
adjust with him give him more comforts
2007-03-04 05:36:39 · answer #7 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋