Whats a classy measured mature response to a "friend"?

Question

Whats a classy measured mature response to a "friend" blowing you off 2 times in a row drinking

This friend is a co-worker so i dont want to make waves per say

The co-worker literaly sits 1 meter away from me

I give him rides home every night

i dont want to be petty but i do want to send a clear message that he ****** up as a friend

Basicly he says lets go drinking on this night and then doesnt answer his phone on that night were suppose to drink .

If he would have answered his phone and said hey look i cant drink right now im screwing my girlfriend or doing a line of coke what have you i would be fine .

I want to be mature and i also want to let him know he crossed a boundry

Help me balance maturity , measured repsonse and integrity to being blkown off by a so called friend

I hate drama

remember he is a co-worker so not only do i hate drama but i have to work with this fellow

Answer 1

When have to be very careful at times developing friendships with your co-workers.

Still, if he blows you off two times (strike 2) he probably will do it again. Once he hits strike 3, that means he is out. I would no longer make plans with him going out anywhere.

Start to develop friendships outside of the workplace.

Answer 2

Sounds like a user. If you have any other friends simply drink with them and let him drift off. he will find someone else to use, probably like he is doing by ignoring you. Forget him man.