2007-03-03 20:47:53 · 36 answers · asked by tony t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ps ive got the kids at the momemt living with me and have the best chance of keeping them
2007-03-03 20:51:33 · update #1
she tries to ring the kids at night but i never anawear the phone
2007-03-03 20:54:04 · update #2
ha ha she can see our kids on sunday her at our home but she dosnt bother so theres no point having a go at me she abonened her kids not me?
2007-03-03 20:59:19 · update #3
like i said sundays come and she hasnt bothered to see them again this is the third week she hasnt seen them?
2007-03-04 03:03:56 · update #4
DIVORCE PAPERS !
2007-03-03 20:49:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually she hasn't abandoned her kids....she's just not up for seeing them within the family home. I'm not saying I'm on her side here, I hate the idea of anyone having an affair. However hun it was just 2 days ago that you posted a question asking if there was any way you could maybe get her back....now you're wanting to get her back in a different way......Look I understand that all of this is very raw to you right now & no-one could blame you for for how you're feeling but try not to tell the children that their mother abandoned them will you.......I'm sorry that everything is such a mess in your life at the moment & I hope everything turns out well for all concerned one way or the other.......
2007-03-04 04:11:13 · answer #2 · answered by Funky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything silly like take another woman home with you, that's just demeaning for the other woman and only proves you to be as bad as your wife. Maintain your dignity and tell her you are better than this and that your relationship is over. There are plenty of women out there who would love a faithful man. As they say, the best revenge is living well - leave her, and show her how little you needed her in your life. Set a good example for your children, they are innocent in all this and you can make a better life for them.
2007-03-03 20:51:39 · answer #3 · answered by f0xymoron 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Get the ball rolling,you know what ball that is. Take solace in your kids . They are true love unconditional and will help you through it. Do not reconsider later when her affair sizzles. It will only happen again. Karma will work her forces she always does:). Life will bring you down a more fulfilling road. It has to ,the road your on now doesn't get much worse.
2007-03-04 03:28:57 · answer #4 · answered by stephenmwells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way is to tell her straight.
You tell her that the day she cheated was the day ther love
for her flew out of the window.
BUT please - don't use your children as a tool for your
hurt. The kids have got to know that you both still love them.
Let her see the children - and let her see that you have moved on.
When she sees that you are happy and coping, she will realise
what she has thrown away. She can't make you love her -
can she?
2007-03-03 23:05:00 · answer #5 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take it out on the kids. They have a right to speak to their mother, no matter what sort of low-life she is. You sound hurt and bitter and just by posting this question you're proving you do still care - the bitterness and anger will fade and hopefully (for the children's sake) the two of you will be able to behave like mature adults and sort out your differences amicably.
2007-03-03 20:56:47 · answer #6 · answered by Away With The Fairies 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The thing is if you want to show her you don't care it means you do care ,and who'd blame you.
Is this a recent thing?
Concentrate on your kids for a bit any revenge you try and take will hurt them all the more.
Let the dust settle.
Then the best way to show someone you don't care is to get on with your life.
2007-03-03 21:00:26 · answer #7 · answered by mistyblue 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you really didn't care anymore you wouldn't be on this as you wouldn't give her a second thought? and if you really don't care then just get on with your life and accept her like an everyday person, like the person down the road, and no matter what happens remember she is still the mother of your children
2007-03-03 21:33:34 · answer #8 · answered by Jackie M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's their mother and every right to speak to her children. Your kids will no doubt hate you when they grow up and find out that you wouldn't answer the phone when their mother wanted to speak to them. You sound like a bad loser but that's not your childrens' fault. Allow your wife access to them, she gave them life for goodness sake. Grow up and deal with your affairs admirably and stop using children as pawns
2007-03-03 23:14:07 · answer #9 · answered by Angelfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce her, get full custody of the kids, get a restraining order against her, hook up with a new hot babe, and have a happy life. Hopefully she'll get the hint.
2007-03-04 03:12:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get on with your life with your children. It's not a good idea to
not answer her calls to the children. She is their mum and its not their fault she cheated on you. Be as amicable as you can for the sake of the children and you will become a better person for it.
Good Luck
2007-03-04 02:47:45 · answer #11 · answered by jobalot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋