the relashionship with my internet love in canada has broken down at the moment, because im ill with my illnes

Question

shes 20 im 29, ive spoke to her for two years on msn messenger, i loved her dearly, but my possesiveness, neediness, and clingyness and jealousness have shown through, alot latley because im very down at the moment with alot of things runnin through my mind, as you will see from my other questions, im waiting therapy. anyway this girl, i got really close to and developed deep feelings for her, and her for me, but i fear she might of had enough this time..shes not been on msn messenger for days.. i want to know, is there anyway of me knowing if shes deleted me from msn messenger? could i tell someway? would i know? she was even gonna come to uk next year to see me, im wondering how i can get her back, i was accusing her of not speaking to me and having other guys display pictures on msn, and always questionin her love for me..i know ive acted really ridiculous and insecure..my insecurities always come through

Answer 1

if she likes you she will start talking to you again but be warned many women hate a clingy man

Answer 2

There's a columnist in the newspapers called Miss Manners, and she refers to internet friends as "the invisible friends from our childhood." Instead of focusing on this relationship -- which isn't much of a relationship because you're so far apart -- you should focus on meeting people in real life. Try going places, get away from your computer, make a goal to go to a new place and talk to someone every single day for a month. Then, it won't matter if your internet invisible friend is there or not.

20 is too young to know what she wants. Step away from your computer and get out in the world.

Sorry not to put a more positive spin on it.

Answer 3

Get over your jealousness and possesiveness because there is only so much that someone can reassure you before you drive them away. People are with you because they want to be with you not so that they can cheat on you!

Give her a couple of days and then send an offline message saying that you are sorry - dont give any promises because she will have heard this all before from you. Wait until she contacts you and listen to what she has to say.

If she doesnt get back to you then learn a valuable lesson from this that you have to get over your possesiveness and dont let it ruin anymore relationships.

Good luck

Answer 4

Please, please, please, give yourself time to get better.
I have read your other questions and I think you just don,t
need this worry right now.
You are awaiting therepy, so everythings all unsettling for
you right now. You need someone to be there for you now
and not hundreds of miles away 20yrd old to give you comfort.
Forget this girl. You developed feelings for her because there is
no one else. Don,t blame yourself or your illness. Once you
have been properly diagnosed you will get the treatment that
is right for you. Just concentrate on you now. Forget everyone
else. If she is interested in you - let her come to you.
Take care now - and I hope everything works out well for you.
You have lots of friends on here. But I hope you have family
or friends with you too.

Answer 5

Maybe if you have her address you can send a letter or text her mobile and say sorry for any actions you deem to be insecure or wrong and make a fresh start, good luck.

Answer 6

dude, no way of telling if you've been blocked or deleted on MSN.

Chicks don't like insecurity- even if you are insecure (as most of us are) try not to show it. Confidence breeds confidence.

All the best with your illness
Ix

Answer 7

Sounds as though she's blocked you on msn.You cant tell.it will just show her as offline.I do think your possesivness and jealousy etc may have pushed her away for good.You sound scarey!

Answer 8

you might have scared her off