O.K...my girlfriend finished with me on Sunday by text. I had been having unrelated problems with stress (exams etc) & she said that all i ever seemed to want was intimacy (not talking2her!) (she hadnt touched me in 1 month) (Really hurt by that!). Anyway,on Mon,she told me she felt it best if we didnt talk4a while,give it 2weeks to get over me,she said!I said 'would u want2go 4a drink aftr then, perhaps as friends (been c in her 4 year-gud frnds b4)?She said 'u may not want2,itl b hard! I was devastated & went home...the next day late at nite got text saying how she nvr wantd2hurt any1 or me,& felt 'really guilty',but 'deserved to'...then left it at that....WHAT DO I DO? If I still like her,do i nvr speak2her again? What's best in this situation? I really value her friendship,but if stil lyk that'd be hard? Do i leave it & see if she texts me eva? Could she? Would she just forget about me, i hav urge 2text her,but know shudnt!
2007-03-03 20:04:47 · 6 answers · asked by Rejhaven 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
better but still too long
2007-03-03 20:07:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your communication skills are lacking, for one thing.
Just reading your question gave me a headache.
Do U ndrstan?
I hope you do not type write like this in an English or a Literature class, I would flunk you (and yes, I DO have a Doctorate).
A text-message will never replace the value of the human voice; and talking face-to-face, being able to see & read the emotions in her eyes is far better than a phone-call.
My suggestion: relax, give her the time she requested, and be friends (NOT LOVERS). Get yourself straight first (get done with the exams, etc.) and in quiet solitude, review your relationship you had.
Are you the first man to fall in love? No.
Are the first man to have his heart broken? No.
Is she the only woman out there? No.
It sounds like way-y-y-y too much Drama is going on... and NO, she won't "forget" you.
And when a woman says "I don't want to hurt you", prepare to find the butcher knife in your back (too bad this "answer section" doesn't allow pictures, or I'd show you my REAL scar from the blonde I moved up here to Reno for...).
2007-03-04 04:32:24 · answer #2 · answered by doktor.vonster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, I promise you there are hundreds of females out there that will be happy to meet a guy who is ready to nurture a lasting relationship, if she kissed you off that easy then she wasn't that interested, she just wanted to swim in the lake for a time and she may also have a need to always want all the attention, she would have walked away sometime in the future anyways, I could guarantee that, just finish your school first and when you get in a permanent career than you will most likely find a like minded female, you will see, I am telling you a fact. don't text or call or see her ever, do you want to keep feeling like you are now? Is she worth messing up your goals in life? trust me she's not, not when she can just walk like that, then have the manners of a uncaring b-i-t-ch to dump the relationship like that, are you white? there is a whole world of females just looking for American white guys, if your white than it's like having a platinum credit card with no spending limit. Asian gals really like white guys
2007-03-04 04:21:51 · answer #3 · answered by travelin_jalapeno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dated her for four years .....than no,... I doubt she will forget you in two weeks....a couple of things you said ....about her not letting you touch her for a month and sending you a message that she never meant to hurt anyone..seems like she is feeling guilt over something....it makes me want to think that maybe she has found someone else....so ,don't be to surprise if she shows up with another guy before to long.....
just sit back and wait and see what unfolds over the next little while ....before doing anything...
by the way, not to be mean....but your post was one of the hardest post I have ever read....maybe you could start typing out the words .....it would make it easier for others to read your questions and you might get more responses and suggestions
2007-03-04 04:23:40 · answer #4 · answered by LeftField360 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all - use proper English!
Secondly - it depends. I don't know how old you are and how long you have been together. I know that one of my exes, it hurt like a ***** to stay in contact with, and it took a long time before we were actually only exes, but he remains a great friend today, five years later. Several of my exes are great people that I have wanted to keep in my life (and have for long periods of time). I think it depends on you, on how much you are willing to hurt for how long, if you are willing to be friends and watch her start dating. I don't think she'll forget you, but if she feels as though you are only lingering because you hope she'll get back together with you, she might start avoiding you like the plague. You need to figure out what you can live with now, three weeks from now, and six months from now. Best of luck man. I know things suck, but trust me, it will NOT hurt this bad forever!
2007-03-04 04:14:12 · answer #5 · answered by carnelionne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP TYPING IN TEXT LANGUAGE!! It makes you look ignorant!
And yes, forget her. She probably found someone else, and was looking for an excuse to dump you, and knowing what she had done, she felt guilty and felt like she had to explain herself.
Don't text her.
2007-03-04 04:09:46 · answer #6 · answered by kenniemcooper 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋