I just heard that according to the bla bla surveys "52%"(my GOD) of the women fake it!!! How do I tell that my girlfriend is not faking it???
I mean to what extent am I responsible for the consequences of her actions? I am trying my best but I don't even know if she is enjoying it or NOT... Please help:((((
2007-03-03 19:59:54 · 11 answers · asked by COBAN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave it to your girlfriend to work this out. All that you need to do is ensure that both of you have great time.
2007-03-03 20:03:18 · answer #1 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Google "faking orgasm"... As far as I know, there isn't any way to "tell" - this is why we can get away with it. The main way to "tell" whether or not your partner is enjoying it is to have a good trusting relationship where you share with each other the "tips and tricks" to make each other feel better, and where your partner is not afraid to say "no" if he/she is not "in the mood". Other than that - you can't really tell, dude. I can tell you what the main reason was for me to "fake": it was when a guy I was with wanted it all the time, and it was easier to just fake it and get it done and over with than to explain him that he really doesn't need to try this hard, that I don't mind "pleasing" him but I myself don't need being "pleased" every single day. Some guys just don't get it, they will just keep at it and will not give up til she "O"s; it can get downright obnoxious. Sex can be much more satisfying if there isn't a pressure to orgasm on demand.
P.S. It's funny, I just read some of the prior responses, and it seems that people feel that women fake because of the lack of foreplay - whereas my own experience has been the opposite, i.e., too much foreplay, and insistance on the prolonged act even when I clearly was not interested.
2007-03-04 04:17:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men are selfish and skip foreplay and intimacy ect. I tend to ignore surveys because it's really not my fault most men are retarded, self-absorbed and egomanical. Personally, I can tell when my girlfriend can't finish. Just because she can't orgasm doesnt mean she is faking it. Sometimes women just CANT they're not designed to finish every single time like a man is. If she's happy, you have a healthy sex life, and no one's complaining I wouldn't worry much. Just make sure you spice it up from time to time to avoid the age old 'rut'.
-Jazz
2007-03-04 04:06:34 · answer #3 · answered by Jazz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi! don't believe all you hear, the fact is that if she does it, is because she wants it, there are times that they don't want to do it because YOU WEREN'T NICE and they allow you to "use them" probably this is the time when they may fake, but Don't do that! if you love her, wait for her to be ready, get to know her and find the right moment to do that, not only when you want but when seems to be wanting. the best way to get the best, is when you treat her like a queen or usually after you do something nice for her, she may wants to reward you and then she won't fake it.
2007-03-04 04:24:47 · answer #4 · answered by Dont_do_that 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most guys don't know when a woman is faking it if she cramps her pelvis around your penis then she's not faking it and women are like me we *** as well so if the beds slightly wet or between her legs is really wet then she's not faking it but on the other hand ........... most women don't know how to have a proper orgasm there's no training in it and its not as easy for girls, and don't take not of surveys cos i know i really wouldn't answer it honestly especially if my husband was next to me when asked
2007-03-04 04:05:56 · answer #5 · answered by mezzy m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there is no way to know, just put lots of foreplay in. You could always ask her what she likes or if she has a special request. You could also try reading books on the "Karma Sutra."
2007-03-04 04:09:23 · answer #6 · answered by Lou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wants to fake it, she really cares about you. Why worry? If you are close enough, ask her. If she says yes, then try to deal with the problem. If she says no, don't worry about whether she is denying it to save you face, if she is she cares for you.
If she really doesn't like it, she will tell you someday, I'm sure.
2007-03-04 04:05:49 · answer #7 · answered by Cara 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pay attention. If you are asking if she did,then she didn't.There is no doubt.All woman are different,ask her what she likes you to do,and give it too her.Most of all take your time.If you think that you have spent enough time on foreplay to get her excited,stop take a breath and double it.
2007-03-04 04:07:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
open up those lines of communication and you'll have your answer!!! She's the only one who knows the truth...
(we've all faked it one time or another...)
2007-03-04 04:07:23 · answer #9 · answered by vinyl_mad 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it turns you on and you enjoy it, don't worry about it...
2007-03-04 04:03:36 · answer #10 · answered by Jasmina 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋