do you think its true?

Question

do you believe that when someone is drunk there true feelings come out??? my husband gets drunk and tells me he doesnt want to be with me anymore and that he doesnt like me to spend time with my grandkids wich are not his biologicly, he tells me he wants to be free and that he wants to find someone else to have kids with as i cant have anymore, and we do not have any together. the next day he says he doesnt remember and that he loves me very much and that he will never leave me i heard that when you are drunk your true fellings come out and you say things that you keep bottled up inside you??????? what do you think???

Answer 1

nahhhhhhhh
everyone does stupid things while under the influence

Answer 2

I truly believe that, yes, honesty does come out when a person is drunk. I also believe that the only reason that they apologize after wards is because they know that honesty caused by the booze will cost them dearly in way or another if they don't lie to cover it up. It's a shame that he doesn't have the guts to confront you with how he really feels without the aid of a bottle. Just remember that we are not all alike. Many of us are honest, caring, hardworking, and compassionate enough to treat our spouses with the respect and love that they deserve. Find yourself a real man that only needs you and not a bottle to make him happy. Good Luck.

Answer 3

Unfortunately yes. Besides how often does he get drunk? Someone who really loved and respected you would not say those things. When people get drunk once in a while, they usually have fun with each other. Who wants to be stuck with a mean drunk? Sorry, but sometimes being alone is better.

Answer 4

I think there is some truth to that myth. to me, I think it's a person's subconscious in part with feelings. People seem to vent when they are drunk. Not neccissarily what they really want to happen, but maybe some part of the situation might be getting to them. but on the other hand, I used to drink and when I drank heavily I would say things and find out the next day and not remember anything. Things I would hope to never even think. In fact, I ruined a good relationship in this way. My friend told me that she was joking and saying I was going to be tied down cause we seem to be getting serious (my bf and I). Then I told her I was seeing a few other guys that I'm not stupid and no guy could ever hold me down. (do not remember any of this) the guy was standing in the doorway behind me and heard that. needless to say the next morning I woke up on the kitchen floor just in time to watch him give my friend a kiss goodbye. she wanted to go out with him and told him I was being serious (even though I had no idea I said that in the first place). she moved in on my man and they ended up going out cause he thought that would be gr8 revenge.

Answer 5

I tried living with a drunk and could not believe the pain he gave me with what he said when he was drunk. I even tried taping it to show him how mean he was.
Your husband needs to chose between you and alcohol. And that means no liquor for you either. If he loves you he will not put himself into that state where he hurts you.
What is true is that no drunk, no where, at no time is worth staying in a relationship with. Someone---you, him, the kids---will get hurt.

Answer 6

It depends on the person, and on what you consider to be "true feelings". Some people become mellow or jolly when drunk, others may become violent and abusive. I don't think either state can be considered to be a "true" state - any drug f*cks with your brain and influences you in some way to make you what you're not. Sounds like your husband is an "abusive" drunk, is all.

Answer 7

Maybe to a certain extent, but I think this is more likely the case of him being a belligerent drunk and lashing out at you since you are his easy target. I think he is just trying to say things to hurt you because he feels bad about himself and is taking it out on you because he knows he can. It is the alcohol interfering with his judgement, and making him say vicious things that he wouldn't say to you if he was sober.

My dad was always the same way. He would come home from work drunk and start picking a fight with my mother, if she wasn't around I was the whipping boy. He would say horrible things, and call me names. Sometimes he would then have a moment of clarity and realize what he had done and start crying and asking me or my mother to forgive him, usually before he passed out. Sometimes we hurt the ones we love the most.

Answer 8

I'd get you both into see a counselor. What a lush most of the time the person is venting some kind of frustration. And from the sound of what he's saying it's based on your relationship. He must be holding in some crud. Not only that the fact that he doesn't REMEMBER...that's just a little scary.

Answer 9

tape his next conversation he has like that and when he is receptive have a down to heart conversation ((( NOT A YELLING MATCH))) this is not a broken marriage this is a very workable situation unless you have already made your mind up to leave him. Why is he getting drunk? sounds like he has more then just a few issues with your side of the family. sounds like he has AA issues that needs to be focused on first and after he has been on the wagon for a LONG time revisit this and see how it fits. stand by him while he is in recovery. and remember this is very workable.

Answer 10

I THINK THAT BEING DRUNK IS AN EXCUSE AND SHOULD NOT BE TOLERATED! HE IS VERBALLY ABUSING YOU AND I AM SORRY BUT THE TRUTH DOES COME OUT WHEN YOU ARE DRUNK, ESPECIALLY IF HE HAS HAPPENED TO COINCIDENTALLY SAID THIS MORE THAN ONCE! LEAVE THE GUY OR REALLY SET AN ULTIMATUM... WHY WOULD YOU WANT THAT ANYWAY... YOU SHOULDNT TOLERATE IT AND CAN DO BETTER> I FEEL SORRY FOR YOU> GOOD LUCK

Answer 11

Sometimes, but not always. He sounds like an angry drunk. The alcohol puts him in an irritable and frustrated mood and he takes it out on you. If this happens every time he drinks, perhaps he shouldn't drink anymore!