How does an ugly girl raise her self esteem?

Question

I have all the problems of an awkward teen. I have acne, I haven't lost my puppy fat yet, I'm short, braces, a ton of wild hair, and I'm just all around ugly. I do play some sports, so that helps in making me a bit comfortable. But I still feel pretty down whenever I look in the mirror.

Answer 1

First...never, ever think you are ugly. There is beauty in everyone.

Answer 2

1. Don't call yourself ugly. It won't make you feel beautiful. Everybody has imperfections. Some are just better about hiding it.
2. Acne and puppy fat could be caused by a bad diet. Believe me, i know. I get zits a lot. Try eating more fruits and veggies.
3. Eating fruit can also help your hair. It's good for dandruff. If you've got the frizzies try a hot oil tratment and spray defrizzer on your hair after you wash it and let it air dry. Gel will also help control it too.
4. Don't try to be someone your not. You are the only you on the planet. We can't all look like a supermodel. And not even supermodels look like their covers and photos. Most of that stuff is make-up and editing.

I hope i helped you. And when you look in the mirror, just know that I don't think your ugly. You are beautiful in your own way.

Answer 3

I grew up feeling the same way. I was even asked once by a schoolmate if I was a boy or a girl. I know what it's like! So, trust me when I say, that this is something you have to work out for yourself. What I realized is that no matter what anyone in this world looks like, someone is always going to have an opinion. If you're not too fat then maybe you're too skinny, and so on.

The way it worked for me was, the more happy I became with the person I am, the more others accepted me. It wasn't about wanting others to accept me though. No one is comfortable when you are uncomfortable. I do what makes me happy, I dress the way I want to, and if someone is not happy about those things, then they are not someone I want in my life anyway right? Be honest with yourself and others, and be happy and comfortable with who you are, because your opinion is the only one that matters. The golden rule may sound corny but it really is true: treat others as you would like to be treated. When someone treats me badly or without any respect, I have learned to pity the person, because I am happy being who I am, and if they don't like it, then tough.

I have always been a little overweight, people still call me pretty and whatnot, but it's due to the confidence. I am okay with who I am, and when you are okay with who you are, that will shine through. If you are unhappy with who you are, people pick up on that, it shines through also, so just learn to accept yourself the way you are. If you want to change, then change, but do it only if it is what will make YOU happy, not others.

Answer 4

aww don't feel like that. Self esteem is not based on looks, but it always help to get that straight first. You're not ugly, you just haven't cared enough about the beauty side of life. Starting to care about that part of things will help gain you more belief in yourself.

People can get really pretty when they use make up. First buy an eyeliner lol =P it helps to see how much different you can look with the aid of make ups. As for your hair try combing it a bit more and using conditioners.
Thats just the very basic, but you will see what transformation can take place with enough care placed on your beauty.

Good Luck!

Answer 5

~First of all, be confident. Learn who you are and focus on the wonderful aspects of your personality/self. If you are confident and kind, people will definitely like you. : )

~Second, you can work on your appearance. Try different things to improve your skin (I had acne for years but finally found a skin routine that works for me--it may seem hard to believe, but eventually you should find something), you can always straighten the hair and lose some weight if you want. Probably the most important thing is finding your own style (that you like) and then enjoying expressing who you are.

~Last, it is important to remember that everyone else has self-esteem problems too. Remember when the pretty, popular, perfect girl walks by that she doesn't always feel pretty inside. She needs love and assurance that she is pretty, just like everyone else.

Hope this is helpful : )

Answer 6

I think everybody notices the worst parts of themselves whenever they look in the mirror. My advice is to be yourself. Stick with your friends. Don't be too embarrassed or shy to try something because you think you are ugly. People do judge by appearances, but it's what's inside that counts the most.

Also, if you really want to lose wait ask a friend or your parents if they want to go to the gym with you to work out. Or just go running. Or get more committed to sports.

For acne, you can get some acne scrub from a supermarket or something. The trick to all of the medicines is consistency. You need to really remember to apply it twice a day or whatever it says on the container. If that doesn't work ask your doctor for something stronger.

But still, don't get too worked up about your appearance. The important thing is to be confident in yourself.

Answer 7

That's common in your teenage years to feel ugly or fat. Mostly due to hormones and a lack of self confidence. Don't beat yourself up just because you may not look like models on magazines covers ( they are airbrushed) and don't start comparing yourself to other girls at school. Be happy with yourself.

Acne will not be a problem forever. Just eat a healthy diet and drink plenty of water. Look in the mirror and find something you like about yourself. Focus on the positive things about yourself and not the bad.

Answer 8

i used to feel unpretty, but the only way to truly feel good about yourself, no matter how pretty or 'ugly' you think you are is to evaluate yourself by your own standards. try to ignore everyone else and what they say or what you think they think of you. ignore all the perfect people on tv and in magazines. you're only beautiful if you think you are (and you are, so believe it), it doesn't matter what anyone else sees in you. if the way you look makes YOU unhappy, take healthy steps to improve yourself for YOU and remember that you won't look this way forever. even if you still can't change some things, remember that you are a unique individual and love the hell out of yourself. confidence is the key and it's NOT based on your physical appearance. some people's confidence is based on how they look, these people are shallow and probably have more internal insecurities than you can imagine. have confidence in the fact that you have one (or more) special thing(s) about you (i don't know what that is) that no one else does. maybe your thick hair is unruly, but my hair is flat and wimpy. i'm coveting your hair right now. it's easier to flatiron/tame thick hair than magically create hair that i don't even have. i'm coveting your braces too. i had them and i got sick of them and took them off too early and my teeth are horrible now...and i no longer have dental insurance. oh and (this is long) i know i said don't worry about what other ppl say, but it does help to surround yourself with positive influences. if you're always around ppl that will agree with you when you say ur ugly, then you don't need to be around them. wow it's 2am.

Answer 9

Hon, You are going through the ugly duckling awkward stage right now. You will grow out of it. You will be a lovely young lady before you know it. Remember how people made fun of Chelsea Clinton when she was your age? Look at Chelsea now. She is a stunning beauty! You will be too! Just keep smiling! And hang in there!

Answer 10

First of all stop referring to yourself as an ugly girl. Yes, there are a lot of people in the world that only see what is skin deep, i feel sorry for them because they will never get to know what is truly in someones heart. Just think, you are doing that to yourself. You physical situation will most likely work itself out and you will become a women, but what's on the inside has the ability to never work itself out if left alone. Please heed this, i beg of you.

Answer 11

HI. first off don't get down on yourself.. your beautiful in your own way. Just grow into yourself.. I felt the same way at your age and I PROMISE YOU that everyone you see at "popular" at your age grows into people you would be shocked to be. You will learn to love yourself.. I see people that I went to high school with now and they are hitting on me. Just feel good about life right now.. be positive and don't worry about stuff ..life is way to short.. worry about EDUCATION and getting ahead... have a positive attitude toward life and I PROMISE you that what you want in life will happen.. looks is not what gets you happiness in life.. a positive attitude definitely attracts more in life than anything external.. I can vouch for that.. keep your head up.. reach for what is important in life and happiness will find you sweetheart :)