my husband got an amazing job opportunity in a different city and he's moved out there. but i'm still here because i'm in school finishing up grad studies. he moved away 2 years ago, but i'm still lonely and miss him a lot. we barely get to see each other, like once every month or so, and we talk on the phone all the time. but i still get really sad. and then i get irritated because i feel like he left me. recently i've been getting the 'wandering eye', looking for cute guys to flirt with. i really don't want to, i'm just so lonely. we won't be able to move in together for another 2 years after i finish my studies. i can't transfer to where he is because the schools there don't offer the same program. is there anyone else in a similar position? how to you cope? any advice will help.
2007-03-03 17:44:20 · 9 answers · asked by frazzlesnap 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
long distance is always hard to do, especially when you're married. it really is unfortunate you're in this situation, but if you two really love each other, and you both agree the marriage is worth it, then there really is no choice for you but to deal and accept the fact that you two will be apart for another two years. since you're getting your education (there's no reason to give that up for a guy) and he's successfully worker, you both are laying down the foundations for a very strong, financially stable, successful marriage. that is as long as you two can survive the next two years. so NO WANDERING eyes!!!! and make sure he's not doing the same... keep believing and have faith in your relationships and love for each other, get through the next two years, and enjoy a lifetime of a successful, loving marriage together. because if you two can get through the years apart, any obstacle you guys may face in the future will be nothing as hard as what you guys face now! good luck.
2007-03-04 15:17:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he didn't leave you. You two need to start making decisions together so you can be together. Two years? That's not right. You need to be with your husband. Can't you finish up grad school where he is? Sacrifices need to be made on both sides ,and I think this is a classic case where you should have decided to go with him. You need to tell him to move back, or you need to get into a different program. You two shouldn't have been married in the first place. You two have been without each other for two years and going to be four. That's not healthy. You guys need to do something before you two end up divorced. Keep your eyes on the road ahead, no more flirting! You're married! How would you feel if he did that to you? He's lonely too! He didn't leave you, don't get mad at him. I'd be mad at you since you weren't willing to transfer into a similiar OR different program.
2007-03-04 01:50:40 · answer #2 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see disaster for this marriage unless something drastic happens. How could you two ever consider doing what you have done? Being separated for 2 yrs. is bad in itself. But when you say you are having a wandering eye and now you must stay separated for 2 more yrs. What can I say? One of you has to give. Either you put off your studies or he should come back and find a job close to you. Otherwise, your marriage is doomed. You must both decide how much you value your marriage and if you want it to work. Good luck.
2007-03-04 01:56:43 · answer #3 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave school and go with him. Thats not cool to be away from him so long and not see him. Has he cheated on you? Chances are if you are just starting to look 4 other guys that he has already looked for another girl. You guys really need to talk about things and not try to get marrige counseling on yahoo
2007-03-04 01:51:28 · answer #4 · answered by I hate stupid ppl like you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you study by correspondence or closer to his city...do you spend holidays together and talk daily? Being separated makes it easy to drift apart you need to consider how you are feeling and expect he is feeling similar and also talk about some compromise to make it work or maybe the opportunities of calling it off for now? How does all that make you feel talk to him.
2007-03-04 01:49:45 · answer #5 · answered by lol_des 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be really hard NOT to have an affair or a roving eye!! I think its just natural...really. Is he not worried about you having an affair on him? I hate to say it, but unless he works under ground, he may be doing the same. If he's making such good money, he ought to fly you out there more or he to you more.
2007-03-04 01:52:22 · answer #6 · answered by marincaligirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i can sympatize with your problem.. and i am sure your hubby has the same feelings you have also. i think it is normal for you to take a glance at other guys.. but you still need to remember you are married.. but if you need friends to talk to,there are many online chatters to befriend you, but also there are the normal nut cases too... so if you need to chat.....
2007-03-04 01:51:40 · answer #7 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look why not you think as if you are not married. It will do a lot of help.
2007-03-04 01:52:58 · answer #8 · answered by Usman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have... lonely eyes... Don;t let them wander be patient... he'll be home soon....
2007-03-04 02:04:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋