I am in a relationship with a man since 4 yrs, we both are indians, he is living in another country, we met through online, then we saw eachother in real life. now his parents are thinking of marriage, he is coming to his native place.. he asked me not to say our relation to my dad now, after seeing, and dating with me again u may say to ur dad after some months... because if he didnt agree for our marriage i wont be able to see u again including for sex.. i feel so guilty i want to say this to my dad, he brought me till these yearrs, so i should tell him about this relationship before another dating and other stuffs... My bf told me he is not ready to marry me if my parents didnt give 2 million as dowry... but he wants to see me this time again and want to hangout and share bed again.. he doesnt mind even dad didnt agree for marriage cos he will marry another... isnt my decission is good to tell this relation to dad before dating him again.
2007-03-03 17:39:59 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Please help me by giving a good decission
2007-03-03 17:41:18 · update #1
tell your father immediately.
and do not see this man again.
have a nice day.
2007-03-03 17:43:26 · answer #1 · answered by sharrron 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell your dad.
I'm very sorry that I don't understand this, does he really love you? Why did he say he wouldn't marry you if you cannot come up with 2 mil dowry? What do you mean he doesn't care about what your dad's decistion cos he will marry another woman? I don't understand how many wives that a man can marry in India, but to me, even a man can have more than one wife legally at the same time, at least he should love all of his wives and care all of them not only the amount of dowry. Is he trying to make money by marrying you or you want him marry you because you both love each other?
I think your dad will give you the best answer since you are his daughter and he loves you very much. He won't let you marry with a dumb guy and let you suffer your marriage with him. He is the one wants you happy forever whoever you stay with.
2007-03-03 17:52:16 · answer #2 · answered by Shanghai Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for one :
if he really loved you he wouldn't care how much the dowry was
two:
he is using you for sex, don't sleep with him
three:
you should tell yor father and he should support you in that.
four:
you deserve better, you might feel like this guy is the one but i promise there are other men out there that will treat you much better
let him marry another girl, you are way too good for this guy!
2007-03-03 17:57:37 · answer #3 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Indians have not got self assurance ins ex bef marriage do they??? properly no longer those i be responsive to. in case you have had sexual family with this guy your dad should help marry him yet no one is going to furnish a dowry of tens of millions certainly shouldn't he supply your dad an apology for they way he has dealt with you with disrespect.... yet i'm no longer an Indian.... So in my u . s . we could call this guy a liar and extortionist. 2 million money that's ridiculous.
2016-09-30 04:23:17 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you answered your own question YES "tell your dad"
i see two things in regards to your BF interest SEX and DOWRY...
but you don't mention anything about him being concern of your feelings or your future as a married couple.
Please do yourself a favor and do what you think is right..(only you know)
2007-03-03 17:49:40 · answer #5 · answered by teabliss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as though he is using you for the $2 million dowry...
2007-03-03 17:43:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anne 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who expects money to marry someone is wrong. Don't see him again. It will only lead to trouble.
2007-03-03 17:52:02 · answer #7 · answered by The Hippy Momma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really sounds like you are more serious about marriage than he is. It sounds like he is more serious about getting his hands on your $2 million dowry.
You can do better than that, really.
2007-03-03 17:47:04 · answer #8 · answered by LaundryGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thast great good luck with the love life!if your dad get diappointed then im verry sorry
2007-03-03 17:43:12 · answer #9 · answered by pechuguiny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your crazy for having sex with him, he doesnt care about you all he cares about is your money! he wont marry you unless his parents give him all this money....... and if he really loved you then he wouldnt hide your relationship from everyone else!!!!!
2007-03-03 17:43:36 · answer #10 · answered by sadgreeneyes3 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋