How do I stop depending on my boyfriend? I get mad alot because he works, but I get mad because when I am not?

Question

with him I am very depressed how can I start being independent ?

Answer 1

You need to decide for yourself whether or not you want to be depressed or be happy. We have a lot of control over our attitudes, and some need meds, yes, but I believe that trying to view things in a more positive light can have a real impact on how you want to live your life. I choose to be happy. I'm not always happy, but what the hell am I accomplishing by being a b*tch to my husband? Absolutely nothing. Happiness is a choice. It is not someone else's responsibility to make you happy. It's not. I'm happy, but my husband makes me feel good, and I have a great time with him because I choose to be in a good mood around him and so does he. I can guarantee if you start thinking more positive and have a better attitude, it will effect your boyfriend and he could start doing the same thing you are.

It might be hormones and you could be moody, but I have enough self control that I choose whether or not I want to be in a bad mood or not. It's up to you! This has a lot to do with dependency on your boyfriend. You choose to be dependent on him, just change your attitude and that will change too. Good luck!

Answer 2

Just stop doing what you are doing, another wards, stop depending on him all the time. Stop the pouting and stop acting like an over grown bratty girl.

You got yourself a working man. And if you two decide to get married, are you going to pout when he puts in the long hours so you can have food, clothing, roof over your head? So, start now by stopping the immaturity. He is going to want someone who will support him and someone who doesn't whine a lot.

No need to be depressed about a man who likes to work. Or, could I say, you need to to grow up!

Answer 3

Find something to occupy your time maybe a Hobie an extra class or some fun things with friends. I think if you take time for yourself you will feel more independent. Having some dependency on your man is healthy for your relationship that will make him feel like he is important to you and is needed.
Good luck!

Answer 4

well you know what to be honest some men do'nt like it when a female to dependent ways that you can start becoming independent well lets see you can get a job you can also start doing things that are benefiting you such as getting a trade or college degree move into a place of your own it always pays to be independent

Answer 5

Hmmm good question. Do you love him? Why are you with him? My opinion: If you love him there is nothing wrong with feeling dependent on him but, the feeling should go both ways. If you are only with him because you need to be with someone I think you need to let go and find yourself singly first. Dont use him to curb your own feelings, be honest. Anyway a few things to think about. Good luck with your situation.

Answer 6

Do you work?..if so depend on your money. If not just tell him that hes doing too much and tell him you really appreciate it alot but you really need to start trying to depend on yourself.

Answer 7

You need to start doing things to keep yourself busy like get a job or get a hobby that will keep you occupied while he is at work.

Answer 8

Focus on your happiness! Do things that make you feel good abour yourself. Quit worrying about the petty stuff....honestly. The only thing you're going to do is push him away.

Answer 9

YOU MUST START BY DOING GOOD THINGS FOR YOURSELF AND AS FAR AS BEING DEPRESSED MAYBE YOU OUGHT TO SEE A DOCTOR AND TELL THE DOCTOR HOW YOU HAVE BEEN FEELING DEPRESSED THERE IS MEDICATION FOR THAT AND IT WILL REALLY HELP YOU TAKE CARE

Answer 10

take your mind off of your bf by hanging out with your friends or just find something else to do that you enjoy.