You are responsible for your own feelings. If you feel lonely, does that feeling arise from within you, or from others? Does contact with others cure the feeling? Or will you still be lonely even when you have the company of others?
Have you read "The Lonely Crowd"? I think the author's name is Reisman. You can be others and still feel lonely.
2007-03-03 17:29:46 · 7 answers · asked by fra59e 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I am not lonely myself, at least not at this time, but I want to understand the concept.
Loneliness is not solitude. I have visited the cottage on Lake Windermere where William Wordsworth lived alone when he wrote his famous poem about daffodils - "I wandered, lonely as a cloud..." and he was not complaining. I have enjoyed solitude in the desert.
But lonely people do not enjoy their condition. So my question is - can they fix their problem by finding other people? Or is the needed first step to take charge of your own feelings? If you do not take control of your feeling of loneliness, will you continue to be miserable even when you are in the company of others?
2007-03-04 04:42:44 · update #1
Lonliness is a state of mind, yu can be alone and not lonely...
2007-03-10 04:30:50 · answer #1 · answered by Juliette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a point in everything where it can be over-thought. You have reached that point where you are over-thinking a simple concept. Emotions can be analyzed and argued a hundred times over, but that won't change what they are. Take control of how you feel and do what makes you happy. If you feel lonely, go talk to someone. If that doesn't work, go talk to someone else. If that doesn't work, then you need to stop holding back your happiness.
2007-03-04 01:41:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It arises from others. If one chooses to be alone for a great amount of time, say over a year, most others will sense it. The average point of view, dull stare, and cellular phone make us ever lonley. With patience we wait for their "act" to come and go and the lonley ones missed nothing by staying alone.
2007-03-04 01:38:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feelings are just feelings they come and go.I am extremely lonely sometimes when I am dead tired and nobody cares.I understand that living alone is something else.I suggest that you should read light lierature to come out of your loneliness,if you don't love it.
2007-03-04 02:30:12 · answer #4 · answered by uncoolmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suffer from self inflicted loneliness...reading novels does not help...i am emotionally unable to socialize...i can not just tell myself i will not be lonely...it doesn't work that way...i do not like being lonely...can't trust people...this is not how i wanted my life to be...i'm lonely at home by myself or with other people...cannot enjoy being with other people but at times it is unavoidable...this feeling comes from deep inside me...it was planted there by abusive parents, an uncle who had a 'taste' for little girls and on and on...this is how it is....too d--- bad for me..... thanks mom, thanks dad, thanks uncle kenny...they are all dead but i hope they can see what they have done...not that they will care
2007-03-09 00:57:20 · answer #5 · answered by justme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lonliness is a state of mind. cure: socialize more and always be
with pleasant and happy people. dont allow yourself to be alone
most of the time
2007-03-04 01:34:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Can you allow yourself to let go and find out? Can you find connections with other people? Have interests in them?
2007-03-04 01:35:55 · answer #7 · answered by The 411 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋