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Question

i am hurt today my eyes are filled with tears how should i free my self without worries please make my day by adding your love full word i have a disturbed married life my husband always insults me in front of everybody and my childrens

Answer 1

Rose,

You chose a man without care and compassion. Life wasn't meant to live in misery. For true happiness, you must seek a life without him. You have a lot to give this world so don't let this negative excuse of a man try to rob the caring people around you of what you have to offer. There is one special person out there that will treat you with the respect, love, honor and commitment that you need and deserve. Don't ever give up hope in finding him. Everyone has that person waiting that God promised to be your helpmate. You have already been given a special gift in that you were named for one of the most beautiful flowers on earth. Just remember, your husband can't insult you if he doesn't have you around to do so. And if a man really loves you he cherishes you. Smile - God loves you and I do too.

Answer 2

Just remember that words are just words, and that ur smarter then he is, and better then he is.. men that bash their wives , are insecure pathetic men, they bash u to feel better about themselves.. but deep down u know the truth, deep down u know ur stronger and better then this, there was a time before he came into ur life that life was better, and u were stronger, and u were worth alot more then he is making u believe now, realize, he is the one with the issues, not u, he is the one trying to stomp u emotionally into the ground because he is the one that doesnt have any self worth and hurting u is what makes him feel better.. but u know deep down u know, theres a part of u, that he'll never touch, a small light inside of u that still wishes for another day, a day of happiness, a day where he cant hurt u anymore, a day of freedom from the abuse that he is causing u, and as long as u hold on to that light inside of u, the one he cant touch, u know that ur going to be ok, because that day will come, that day where u will be strong enough to say Enough is Enough.. and fight for yourself, fight for something better, to give ur kids a better life, one where they dont watch their mother being destroyed one where they learn that this isnt how ur treat ur wife, or how ur treated as a wife.. hold on to that spirit, and one day u will leave.. u will finally see that u and ur children deserve alot better then what u have now with him.. and u will find "real love, and real happiness" , u can do it, ur stronger then u think.. its only the unknown that scares u, but ur all u ever really needed, u and ur children, and when ur ready.. u'll get out.. and ur tears will be nothing but a past emotion and u'll be greatful that u left and u wonder why u waited so long to do it..

Answer 3

I'm so sorry. You have only asked for loving words, not advise, but since this is a Question/Answer forum, I'm going to give you some.

First, you must talk to your kids about this. Tell them, "Daddy is very wrong to do this and I'm concerned that you'll learn it from him and grow up to treat others this way or accept others treating you this way. This is not acceptable. I'm going to try and work with Dad to stop this." Give them hugs and love.

Go online and find articles about spousal verbal abuse. Print up as many articles that pertain to your situation as you can find. Read through them, highlighting key phrases. Give the package to your husband when he's being nice, and ask that he please look through them. Tell him then that you've been very hurt by his verbal abuse, especially in front of the children.

If you've been abused for a long time, it may be difficult to approach him again to ask if he read the material. If you can, do. Otherwise, you can wait and see if things improve. They might for a little while. Then, when the abuse happens again, be ready to be strong and tell him you can't allow yourself to be treated this way by him, or anyone else anymore. It has to stop. He will likely become angry and try to put you down and disempower you if he feels you becoming strong, because he may be used to controlling you and doesn't want to lose control over you. But if he feels you getting stronger, he may try to be nicer. But you need to tell him at this point that if the abuse continues, you'll have to take action.

Plan your get-away. You'll have to plan to take the children, or he'll trash you to pieces, and that would damage them too much. Do you have a friend or rekative you could go to? If not locate a womens shelter in your area where women who are abused by their husbands can go to be safe.

When you stand up for yourself and your children, you will know a power and peace that will change your life forever. Accept the support available, and don't let this happen to your kids. Verbal abuse is not a small thing. It's worth leaving over.

Strength and love to you.

Answer 4

This is what women like to call verbal abuse and that is still abuse. You need to get away from him. Don't let this man bring you down. Get out while you can before it gets so far out of hand that you cant get out. He has no right to insult you in front of people or not. He has no right to insult you anywhere.What does he think he is. Stop crying and Pack your kids up and dust your self off and hold your head up high and leave him. You can do this and there is help for you out there. I left abuse on foot from north Carolina to Georgia to get out and now I'm doing so good and he doesn't have any idea where I'm at. I know you tell yourself you love him but let me just say love isn't suppose to hurt. And this man is hurting you. Maby you can help someone like yourself one day when your on your feet again.

Answer 5

Honey I'm sorry your going through such a difficult situation... i would consider separating from your husband because that is a bad example for your children to ahve your husband disrespecting you that way all the time... i had a boyfriend once who would always embarrass and disrespect me in front of people he would make me run out crying because of how much he insulted me, until i realized he couldn't possibly care about me if he treated me in such a disrespectful way and you should find yourself someone who would love you ad respect you... take care and good luck, I hope your husbands stops treating you this way but if he doesn't then you should leave him...

Answer 6

emotional abuse is as bad if not worse than physical abuse. If you can get out before it gets to the physical stage it is hard and you probably still love him but think about what lesson your children are learning from this man and you for putting up with the abuse. Try to make friends outside the circle you know or talk to a life line counselor

Answer 7

Well all I can say to you is to turn to God ask him to feel you with his love and it shall be done...no one in this world will take that lonely feeling away ...trust me if you put your trust in the lord you will find out he will make a way for you that no other person can take care and no one needs a husband that puts them down with insults nor do your children need to hear him do that to you grab onto the Lord he will give you so much .....take care

Answer 8

Insult him back. In front of anybody. I've noticed public references to a surprisingly small penis or sympathy for their frustration over their impotence issues tend to shut those sorts up real quick.

Then get the heck out.

There's a very good site on verbal abuse you might want to check out calledy youarenotcrazy.com.

Answer 9

MRS.
YOU KNOW GO OUT AND HAV UR SELF A BLAST; GET A MANI PEDI GET YOUR HAIR DONE SHOP...CUZ NO MAN IS WORTH YOUR TEARS AND THE ONE THAT IS WONT MAKE YOU CRY...SO I KNOW THIS PART ISNT FULL OF LOVE BUT IT MAY BE TIME 4 A DIVORCE OR A LITTLE ALONE TIME FROM EACH OTHER GO ON A WEEK LONG CRUISE WITH OUT HIM WEN U RETURN HE'LL LEARN TO APPRECIATE EVERY LIL THING U DO....IT'LL BE BETTER

Answer 10

Rely on the love of your children. Give them extra hugs and tell them you love them. As for the husband...if you can't or don't want to leave him, try to look for the good in him and ignore his hurtful words. When you have him alone try to talk to him and get him to see how his words hurt you. Maybe suggest counseling. My thoughts are with you.