i tried helping this guy who is depressed...i encouraged him to get better and he got angry. why do people do this?
2007-03-03 17:00:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Some people like to wallow in their misery. I have a coworker like that. I suspect that he doesn't like me for exactly this reason- it's easier for him to blame the rest of the world for his crappy life that acknowledge that crap happens, and he can make a decision to see the good side of thing.
He chooses to hold a grudge against a customer... He chooses to be in a bad mood because of something another employee said... And I've told him that I don't buy it.
Martha Washington once said that, "A greater part of our misery and happiness depends more on our disposition than our circumstance"... or something to that effect...
2007-03-03 17:12:12 · answer #1 · answered by Yoda's Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because some people don`t want other`s to realize and tell them about the fact that they have a problem é depression........... and also because the depressed person may not feel that you understand them fully. To tell you the truth, when i was extremely depressed, i hate and couldn`t stand when the `friend` went to the counsellors and said that i was depressed, it felt like betreyal.... It really isn`t their business......
Also when people are depressed, they are very irritated, agressive, unstable people..... just a state that a person is in.....
Hi being mad at you may not even be what he truly feels.... it`s just how it`s coming out ...
I would suggest you to take it easy and stop ``helping`him unless he shows interest in your help.... BUT if you are or used to be a good friend of his, then don`t leave him alone..... be around
Depressed people just need some happiness... maybe try to do thinsg that make him happy .....
If he is one of the idiotic category of people that cut themeselves well then he is doomed...... What an idiot would cut themselve.... So stupid.. anyways there usn`t much you can do about that so yeah
good luck
2007-03-04 01:23:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should blame him, or blame yourself for this. Depression is a pretty serious condition, and when someone is at their extreme low point chances are they probably won't recognize that you are trying to help them. They probably would feel alone regardless of the army of people who are trying to make him feel better. He probably hasn''t come to terms with it, and probably doesn't even know why he is feeling the way that he is. His defense mechanism is getting angry when you tell him to seek help, or that he need help.
He would come around sooner or later, if you have the patience and you truly care for this person (or care enough to stick around and help him) then he would recognize that you are there, and start to talk about what is truly going on. It is only then the steps to healing could ever happen.
Good Luck
2007-03-04 01:25:35 · answer #3 · answered by micheypoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well one thing for sure is that he's human and want's to be alone for a while. Also if you really want to help i would get out of the way but make sure he does'nt do anything stupid. Or i would help him find a hobbie that he enjoys!!!
Good Luck!!!
2007-03-04 01:10:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's part of his depression - don't take it personally.
2007-03-04 01:21:04 · answer #5 · answered by marilynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give him some space... but make sure that he knows he can talk to you anytime when he feels like talking..
2007-03-04 01:21:29 · answer #6 · answered by ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone and live your life
2007-03-04 01:05:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋