I'm in love with a married woman and so is she with me she has two girls 9, 7, will she leave her husband?

Question

I want to spen the rest of my life with her. She say she feels the same way, but she keeps sending me mixed messages just giving me enough to keep hope. I know that when were together it feels right, when we look into each others eyes I feel so much love. I dont want to give up. But my instinct tells me to walk away. There is alot more to the story than this, to much to list. I just dont know what to do

Answer 1

You, sir, are a self-centered bastard.

Break it off, and move far enough away that there's practically no chance of you ever running into her by accident.

I don't care what kind of woman she is. That YOU would encourage her to destroy her family, and cause her daughters anguish, is absolutely despicable.

Answer 2

I was where your at when I was 19. IT IS NOT RIGHT WHAT YOU 2 ARE DOING. WALK AWAY!!! If she is giving mixed messeges then she is NOT sure that she wants to leave her husband and be with you, You need to note that she has 2 kids that are also involved. If you both are not FULLY IN LOVE except when your together then let her go and be with her family that she already has and appears to want to stay with. You will find another lady, Heck you may find several more. WALK AWAY, if it comes back then its true love, and when I say if it comes back I mean she actually leaves her husband. when I say walk away I mean dont look back either. If she is cheating on her husband now even tho she has 2 kids that age and doesnt care about her family how can you fully trust her? I'd bet she would cheat on you or the next guy in a heartbeat. LOSE HER!!!

Answer 3

Dude, how old are you? Think about it!!! Do yourself and another guy and the woman a favor and stay away from married women!!! Nothing but trouble, can get you killed if the guy is the type that would kill you over it!!! That is the biggest no no in the moral handbook of life!!! Always know and REMEMBER what I am about to tell you!!! If a mate cheats on someone to be with you, they WILL cheat to be with someone else!!! If you can't see that then you have issues you need to resolve before you get into any kind of a relationship in the future!!! Sorry to burst your bubble dude, but if I was in the guys shoes, I might have to kick you and her both down just for the principle of it all and to let you remember it isn't fun to mess with someone elses life like that and for her to know it isn't fun being a s l u t!!!!!! As for sueflower, It is a big difference to be divorced then meet someone but not to do it while your married i don't care if the guy humped a dog!!!

Answer 4

I always feel sorry for people who ask these sorts of questions in this forum, because the judgmentals come out in droves to point their fingers and call names.

My mother left my father when I was 7 for another man. My father was an alcoholic, he stayed out all night, every night and when he was home they were fighting. When my mom finally found the courage to walk away from him, she married the other man and they lived happily ever after. And he was an AWESOME step-dad to me and my sister. And my dad eventually cleaned up his childish ways, re-married another woman, and also lived happily ever after.

Obviously I don't know the details of your situation, but I do know these things can work out. Sometimes we humans don't get marriage right the first time around.

I recommend you talk to her and ask her intentions. Tell her you love her and want to spend the rest of your life with her, and ask her how she envisions her future.

Good luck to you.

Answer 5

You shouldnt have gotten into this relationship in the first place! But I'm not going to go on about that...
What you should do is have a serious discussion with the woman and ask her if her marriage and well-being of her kids is less important then her love for you. If so, sure... another broken family. If not, then walk away!!!

Answer 6

Convince her to leave with you, but leave her kids with their father. That way you two can concentrate on your relationship, plus you won't have two pre-teen pests hanging around all the time. They will be better of with their father.

Don't worry about being called a home wrecker. No story is so black and white. People pre judge without all the facts! Every one deserves a happy life, it's too short to be without love. Good luck

Answer 7

Seriously consider what you want, and who you will be affecting. Think of her two daughters, how are they going to respond to someone taking their father's place. Some people ( and I am not attacking you here) believe that it is unatural for a man to chase a woman with two daughters, they might think you are interested in the little girls, so be careful. Like the man before said , walk away and don't look back.

Answer 8

First off i want to say i dont condone ur behavior to begin with the moment u found out she was married with kids, u should of walked away.. so with this being said.. i'll get to ur question and answer it as unbiased as i can..

1. Shes a woman , women tend to work on emotions.. and usually when a woman cheats on her husband its usually because she needs her emotional needs met, which sounds like your doing for the most part, doesnt necessarily mean she wants to leave her husband though..

2. She has children, and as a mother, its inate in you to want to protect ur children, not only physically but emotionally as well, and she'd have to be extremely cold hearted to not atleast think twice before taking her kids away from their daddy that they love..

Im sorry but unless he's just down right mean to her, unless she see's being with out him is better for not only her but the kids as well, im thinking that although she loves u..she will not leave her husband for you.. because she's to emotionally tied down to her marriage and her children.. basically u fufill her needs.. but he fufills her childrens needs.. and most women, will do what they feel is best for their children over their own needs..

If she really loved u the way she says she does and the way u think she does..and the way that u love her, she would be with u right now and not sleeping beside him in "their" bed..

Im sure she loves u..but she wont risk the uncertainty of her future and her childrens future with u ..she's stringing u along at this point.. for her own selfish needs.. although im sure she wants to be with u, dreams of it.. she wont leave..

If i were u, if u want to know where her feelings are for u, id tell her she has a time limit.. example.. would be till June.. to leave her husband and come be with u.. and if she doesnt do it , u know where u stand.. dont let her make a million excuses.. cause she will try.. u let her know that u love her, but u wont waste ur life on a dream that wont ever come true and at some point she has to decide if ur worth fighting for and taking that next step..

I really hope she chooses her husband, sorry, but i do, because these children are innocent by standards of all this, and they deserve a life with both their mommy and daddy in the same household, and even if she leaves to come be with u , they will always look at u as the person that wrecked their home..and they will never accept u in their life, which will only cause u and her alot more problems, and i just dont see it ever working out, what u want is a fantasy, that will never come true.. and i think u both need to stop being so selfish and have respect for the wedding vows that she took, and respect for those children not to continue this relationship..

And btw.. if she's capable of cheating on her husband, someone she once adored enough to marry and have children with.. she is capable of cheating on u as well when things get boring and life isnt the fairy tale she imagined with u either.. so watch out, if she does come be with u..cause she'll just hurt u like she's about to hurt him ..

Answer 9

This is one of those questions that is so easy to judge. Every situation is different and everybody is different. You need to communicate with the woman tell her what you want find out what she wants and think of all the others involved what they will be giving up etc...also the kids their father what would happen their etc. Good luck and I hope your life works out.

Answer 10

i going to be honest with you ,,,first you walking on no man land,,, if her man find out, that you see his wife, well, you get the point,,,but realy,, think on her side of the boat, one thing he could file for a devorice, an on good ground lose her kids,,, 2th she gave birth to his kids an they must have some tiews, as love, you just dont , theow a way a life,like that, now how would you feel if you was the husband an another man step in, an try to take your wife,,mmmmmmmmm ,, you be piss right,,,,, so i think i realy think thing over,,,,be fore i went to far,,,an in the end the kids be the one hurt

Answer 11

She may have feelings for you but she has to think about her 2 children first. She is in a really tough situation and maybe confused and unsure of what it is she really wants. I would walk away and give her time to think and if she is serious about being with you then she will come to you.