The no commit man, the lets be freinds, but really..its "freinds with benefits". Does this go anywhere..this type of relationship..or does it just lag on and on.
Is this the new age "realtionship" the 2000 thing? Like so many of the couples in hollywood now days, just living together no marriage, no nothing...
I think people that have been dating for lets say 10 years can answer this question, the other people are not really ready to understand mature realtionships over the age of 30. So, thanks but don't.
2007-03-03 16:43:26 · 13 answers · asked by earthmother6224 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thats the WORST relationship you can get in! one ALWAYS falls in love with the other one, and then the other one says this was supposed to just be SEX and no relationship! my friend went in to this mess and she ended up getting her heart broken! whats wrong with being a healthy LOVE relationship with a normal guy??? stay away if you dont want to get hurt and if you actually do want to get somewhere and have a nice normal feauture with a nice guy ( getting married and have babies ) = family
plus in this relationship, the guy can EASILY walk out on you! why do you think he wants it this way? so he can be with MORE than one girl and then leave you like a peace of cake with no obligation to you! thats not love! :( and thats just sad, if he cares and truly loves you he wont say that!
2007-03-03 16:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by Scorpio Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have several single 30s women friends that keep hoping that "this guy is different" and they provide all the benefits and then get left behind when the guy is through with them. Breaks my heart.
But, you know what? It will happen over and over again until women realize that they are a complete person all by themselves and that they don't need men to be "complete". Yes, it's lonely as hell sometimes, but it's better being single with dignity than single and shacking up.
You see all sorts of trashy magazine articles like "When friends become MORE.." and "Sex with Friends...is it a good idea?" Come on, already.
Yes, it's a new age relationship 2000 thing. Just like it was a "70s relationship" thing. And, a 60s thing. Been around for a long time under all sorts of names. It's just more out there now.
Don't fall for it. By the way you articulated your question, you seem to be an intelligent and insightful person. Be good to yourself and keep yourself respect.
2007-03-04 01:04:41 · answer #2 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I haven't been dating the same person for 10 years... heck I'm not even 30, but I'm married and my husband is. I can say this... why would a man pay for the cow when he is getting the milk for free. If you want a man to treat you like a friend with benefits... let him. If you don't want to be treated that way then find a "mature" man that wants more out of life than sex. I personally believe that many women, and men, allow themselves to be treated like crap just so they can fuss about it and give the "poor me" stories.
2007-03-04 00:53:31 · answer #3 · answered by mrslang1976 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People over the age of 30 can't understand mature relationships? But people dating for 10 years can? You better give a little bit more thought to your question.
2007-03-04 00:49:42 · answer #4 · answered by ElOsoBravo 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because you are giving it up for free!!!
So many women do not know how to be ladies anymore. And this new way of doing things is not making a man be a man. All morals and values are going down the tube. And the ones that suffer the most are the precious children produced out of these new types of arrangements.
It is all very sad.
2007-03-04 00:49:05 · answer #5 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
These types of relationships happen to so many of us women because we ALLOW it to. And, even if we decide we are not going to put up with it, there is some woman right behind us willing to put up with a man's mess. Things will not begin to change for us woman until woman AS A WHOLE, say NO MORE and EXPECT for men to commit and we stop "playing house" with men. Until then, this is the sad reality of things. Men only treat us the way we allow them to. Right now, they are able to get away with WAY TO MUCH.
2007-03-04 00:49:19 · answer #6 · answered by TwinkaTee 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It happens because God is not present in our hearts and we are all messed up...we don't know what's really good or wrong, we forgot to pray, we think that sin doesn't exist, it's only an old story...so sad. We made the world as it is with those "values"...we don't have to live only for s_x like most are living! LIFE is wonderful if it has the purity God gave to all human beings! Praying we'll understand a bit better every day why are we here and what we have to do to be really happy. Take good care and don't forget to pray for you, for him, for her, for all your friends and enemies!
2007-03-04 01:07:32 · answer #7 · answered by MV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people are more scared now to get married . The devorse rate is 50/50 chance in this day and age. Its a peice of papper to a lot of people and thats it. Its sad but true.Its alot of work to get a devorce and eaiser to keep what you got ,if it doesn't work. Its less risky to not commit
2007-03-04 00:55:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats wrong with being able to walk out EASILY. I'd say this would be the ideal situation for any man.
For a woman, maybe not. But who cares.
2007-03-04 01:04:26 · answer #9 · answered by Joe B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happen because it easy and comfortable to be in a friends
with benefits that way you dont have to committed to anything
that why it so easy now. and you right the younger generations
is more comfortable to live together for years. i from the old
school my self so i feel different about things.
2007-03-04 00:59:06 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋