my 16 year old son just bought 400 dollars worth of porn movies on cable?

Question

Iam super upset i called the cable company about my service and they told me i have $400 balance on cable for xrated movies .what do i do this kid has denied everything and the 13 year old did too i am bout to omg.......... lose it gimme some advice quick or you'll read about me !!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

and this child is still ALIVE ???

if this was my child im not so sure i would not have killed him


please tell me you have baned him from ALL TV and he is going to pay all 400 of the bill

sorry i cant give you a step by step on what to do i just keep thinking if this had been one of my kids wow

Answer 2

Before you think of punishment, think of this: I think the most important thing is why your children did this. They need to realize that they are buying into a culture that is extremely unhealthy and sexist not to mention incredibly distorts the image of what a meaningful relationship between people can be. I hope you would talk to them with your spouse or partner and discuss where they got the idea that porn was ok and what their thoughts on porn are/were, discuss realistic relationships and how porn reduces everything to sex, rather than giving the full picture of life together.

In terms of punishment, I would be very careful as you have no real proof that they actually did this. $400 worth of porn is alot of hours and if you never saw them watching it I can only ask where they could have watched it in the house without your or your partner's supervision, especially for hours on end? That is something to consider too.

If you are sure that they did it, then consider them having to work it off, either outside the house or chores-wise and explain that they are looking at at least a month or two's extra work or suspending their allowance indefinitely.

Do not get vindictive or furious, it will only block communication. At the end of the day you need these children to keep talking to you or it will happen again. Selling off their belongings to pay for it or humilating them in front of their friends and or family will only make them more determined to defy you. It is harder for them to stay defensive when you are hurt and concerned then when you are angry which will only make them feel justfied and defensive.

My last thoughts are: you might want to look into what kind of music, games and movies they own as well as new friends they have made recently. You don't just suddenly get interested in $400 worth of porn, there has to be some reason it's just recently. Also, consider having the cable turned off or changed as well as watch the internet like a hawk, that is a bad one for porn!!
Good luck, this is a tough one for a parent to deal with.

Answer 3

Well, yeah you'll have to pay for it, but if you are positive that it is one or both of the children, make them pay a part of it out of pocket money or income ($400 is a bit too much for a 16 year old to be paying on their own, let alone a 13 year old). If only one is the guilty party the other will put pressure on his brother to fess up. And it will teach them to take responsibility for their actions and if they do anything like that again they know they're not going to get away with it.
But you are certain, say, it wasn't your partner, or a family friend? Because if you blamed your children then discovered it wasn't them... well, not good.
For the future though, if you feel that making them pay for it isn't going to get the message across, you should be able to set a parental control to block that channel out - and any other channels that you can purchase movies or services off of.

Answer 4

Does your 16 yr. old have a job outside of home and school? An allowance? What about the 13 yr old-allowance? Of course, the fun of it is denial. Please call the cable company, have a parental block put on to keep this from hapening again. However, I will let you know that kids are smart enough to get passed that block. I can see where you are extrememly livid on this. So, please stop, take a deep breath, and let's go from here. Okay, money wise, they owe you for what they ordered. They can pay you back with money, if they get any, plus, or instead, you can make them work it off. How many extra chores do you have in mind for them to do? Spring is approaching, mow the lawn, plant flower bulbs (per your direction), take the trash out, daily. Clean their rooms, top to bottom, at least once a week. Already do that? How about every day? Homework, a must be done-every day, plus an extra page or two on a certain subject. To be checked by you when they are done with it. Grounded, from tv especially, for a minimum of one month. Plus, other activities with their friends, grounded, at least one month. Maybe two or three. They will be too busy during this time with their homework, and extra chores around the house. No phone privileges either. They will need to come straight home from school. If you work, and they are alone, they will have to call you not only every day when they get home, but however often you tell them to-on time. Oh yes, one very important thing to start all of this with-a talk with them. Please ask them why they did this? Do they realize how expensive it is? How they are going to pay you back-extra chores, money (allowance, etc.). And, please sit down and talk with them as well on how porn is not the proper way to look at women. Once they are adults, and on their own, that's one thing, however, your house rules say no porn. Understand curiosity, but not $400 worth! Women are to be respected as equals to men. Not treated like objects. That is what porn does-treats women like objects-to do nothing but please men. According to men's fantasies. I wish you the best on this. Take care.

Answer 5

If they are sticking to their story, then confront them with proof, like a bill with the times and dates the x-rated movies were viewed. Also, make them understand how important it is that your relationship be based on truth and trust. Let them know what you think about pornography. Take them to a therapist who counsels sexual deviant or sex offenders so that they can hear how those people got started down the road that led them to become what they are. If all else fails, then threaten to dance nude in front of them. Seeing ones own mother as a sex object should be enough to turn them off for a little while anyway.

Answer 6

Talk to your son. Block the channels. Tell him to get a job and pay for his own porn.

Colleen--I don't know about you but my pay-per-view is set up directly through the cable. You just click buy and it's added to the cable bill. There's a four digit pin that you can request but you can just make it so you hit the "B" button on the DVR remote to buy something.

Answer 7

talk to your son call the cable company and get a password that only you and your husband know and block alll the channels you dont wish that your children don't need. Don't hit him but talk to him and if you are given money to them to take to school or etc dont give it to them dont buy them things because they will say oh she is still giving me money so what and they will keep on doing things like this.

Answer 8

How did a 16 year old order adult content movies without your consent? They can't contract with a credit card company because they are under 18 so they couldn't have gotten it them that way. So where did they obtain the credit card to rack up a $400.00 balance with the cable company.

Answer 9

Make them pay for it. They are old enough to be looking at porn so they are old enough to be paying for it too. Stop giving him money to go out and stuff untill he gets a job and starts paying for it.
It may of not been your sons, make sure to talk to your husband about it too.

Answer 10

Oh My! Take Them To Church And They Can Talk About It In A Group.It Really Works.