I want to come out as bisexual to my parents. Does anyone have any suggestions? They are generally really cool about the gay community, but they have said that they don't "believe" in bisexuality.
2007-03-03 16:26:04 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I feel the need to tell them because we are very close and I am sick of omitting and altering stories I tell them. I am tired of having some major event that I want to convey, but can't because it might out me. Its like knowing a really big secret, it feels like if you don't say anything you might explode.
2007-03-03 16:42:38 · update #1
I'm 19. And I really am bi, I have a boyfriend, I just kiss girls too.
2007-03-03 16:47:26 · update #2
Just don't make a big deal out of it and stop hiding the truth. The first time you mention making out with a female friend I think they'll start to put the picture together.
2007-03-04 15:05:40 · answer #1 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you're parents are generally accepting, if you tell them that you are bi, they sound like they will easily come to accept that. Instead of full on telling them "I am bisexual," perhaps you should just convey to them that you've kissed a girl(s) and you liked it, but you still like your boyfriend. That should give them an idea. As you learn more about your true feelings, your parents will accept whatever it is you chose better as well.
2007-03-03 20:13:37 · answer #2 · answered by Mugichari 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes telling your parents that you are gay or bisexual is not a wise choice to make.
When my brother "came out of the closet" he and Dad got into a massive arguement that did not solve anything. He (my brother) left home that night.
I think he and Dad are ok about it now. Still I do know that Dad wishes my brother were straight.
Ever heard of the line "what they don't know won't hurt them", well I suggest you don't tell them if you think it will hurt your relationship with them. You won't be living a lie by not telling them you are simply omitting certain details of your life from them.
Please be careful when you ......errrr......invite someone into your bed. You wouldn't want to pick up something nasty. If you get my meaning.
2007-03-03 16:36:10 · answer #3 · answered by Spikey and Scruffy's Mummy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i guess if a person does not experience anything then it can be hard to understand but if your parents can accept the gay community then they should be able to accept your unique problem. Life is difficult no matter what direction you take. Me i am just straight but life is still hard to live-we just have to do the best that we can being human and all. I don't see how you deal with all of this.
2007-03-03 16:34:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if you know they will accept YOU, they dont UNDERSTAND bisexuality. my advice is to dont tell them, at least wait until you're 18, that way they cant use the "you're just a kid going through a phase" excuse. trust me, I came out to my mom, thinking that it would bring us closer if i was honest, but it made my life hell. She was very cool with gays, most of her friends were either gay or transsexual. There is a huge difference for parents between gay friends and gay kids. friends come and go, but their kids are there forever. I'm not trying to scare you, honey, I'm just telling you how it works. If you feel the need to tell them, then go for it. I suggest you read the book "How To Come Out To Your Parents." I know it sucks keeping this a secret; telling them that you have a boyfriend when u really have a girlfriend. But most gays who come out to their parents before theu move out, regret it terribly.
2007-03-03 16:44:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm coming out to my parents too (I'm a lesbian)! Next weekend, when I go to visit them. I was a little nervous thinking about it, but hey... they're cool people, and there's no way they will be upset. Surprised, yes, but not upset. In the end, it's my life.
Just like your life is your business. I really hope things go well for you! I guess you just have to convince them that bisexuality is real. And they'll listen, sweetie, don't worry. It may take a little while for them to understand, but they will.
2007-03-03 17:01:23 · answer #6 · answered by Rissa 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well its hard not "believe" in something that surely does exist. Take it from this angle, all people are bisexual. If that wasn't the case no one would ever be able to enjoy pornographic movies of a heterosexual nature. Take a page from Ron Whites book on that one. Its not a matter of having to make up your mind. Let them know you appreciate the male and female bodies equally.
2007-03-03 16:31:52 · answer #7 · answered by Kate 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
If you know that they are fine with the gay community then you should just say that you like girls as well as boys. Then say that you just wanted to get it off your chest.
2007-03-03 16:30:38 · answer #8 · answered by closetcoon_fan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They might not like it but remember you are still their daughter and they will still love you the same
2007-03-03 16:29:48 · answer #9 · answered by mike k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why do you feel you need to tell them? Anyway just come out and tell them
2007-03-03 16:29:29 · answer #10 · answered by Shawna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋