my husband cheated 2 months after our son was born.?

Question

He left he e-mail open and i found it all he was chating and trying to hook up with girls on line.And when i told him he said it was just that he was having fun but did not hook up with no one. what should i do?

Answer 1

Nomi, from what i read your husband didnt physically cheat. or did he? he did cheat on you emotionally and thats just as wrong. some women(like myself)put degrees on cheating. from least offense to worse...............
1. talking to another female.
2. kissing another female.
3. having sex(oral too) with another female.
4. having a full fledged relationship with another female(all offenses combined).


and from what you described your husband committed the least offensive(not making an excuse for him)but you have to put into consideration of the childs best interest to have both parents together in your childs life. i think that what he did is not enough to leave him over. however, be vigilant because it could be a precursor to much worse offenses. plus he says he was just doing it for fun and i can kind of see a man doing that. i find myself doing that sometimes on the internet. please try to work this out if you can but you must always follow your heart and go with your gut instincts since they are right most of the time. if you feel this is your cue to leave the relationship by all means go for it.

Answer 2

i don't believe what he did, some adult adult males get the cool ft element. and choose the final fling. And are you specific this different person isn't basically attempting to interrupt you 2 up so she could have him. besides in case you are able to't forgive him then you certainly could desire to do what perfect for you. He has not cheated on the grounds which you have been married. So in case you are able to't build a trusting courting get some counseling. If he had any feeling for this different person then why is he nonetheless with you?

Answer 3

Men cheat because they don't get what they need at home. You probably are ignoring him for the baby. Just because you had a kid doesn't give you the right to forget your husband.

Is this a harsh answer? Maybe but it's the truth. Guys don't just cheat for sex but for relationship and companionship too.

Examine how you treat him, and how you are acting now. Have you allowed yourself to become a "fat Mom" now? Have you giving up looking after yourself? Is the baby your only relationship?

Examine this relationship and if your marriage is worth saving, change your ways now.

Answer 4

Well - he knew he had you and you wouldn't be going anywhere for a while, so he thought he'd indulge himself a little. After all, you're tied up with baby, and he's not getting what HE needs. If I were you, I'd tell him that he'd better grow up a little and realize that you both just produced a child and now it's BOTH your responsibility to take care of him. Obviously, since you're too busy to take care of HIM and the baby, he's acting like a little boy who's jealous. It seems that you have two children here!

It's your call, but I'd say that what he's doing is a deal breaker! How would he like it if you had that kind of fun, while he looks after the baby for a bit?

Answer 5

Same thing happened with my now "ex." This was a culmination of a lot of similar things he was doing. You keep a watch on it and look for other signs. Having fun is playing a sport or going out with you. Looking to hook up with other women is not fun, its on the verge of cheating.

Answer 6

oh no girlfriend
let me tell you something
my husband cheated on me 6 times while i was pregnant then for some reason quit after i had our child
well enough said i left him and hey dont let someone do that to you
i shur hope he doesnt give you a disease
make him beg
kick him out for a while
if he st8ens up let him back if you feel you can trust him
some couples make it through these things, well i couldnt
just do what you feel is right, in my opinino he is a dog and doesnt deserve you

Answer 7

Dating sites are so funny. I used to have a profile up with my picture even though I'm in a commited relationship. It was just so pathetic weirdos who need dating sites could email me. I'd get a real laugh out of some of it. Then I got bored. Maybe he was just having fun and not cheating, maybe he wasn't. Who knows? You can either trust him or assume he's a pathetic cheater who can't even meet women for the first time in real life!

Answer 8

give him time to shave off his bad mistake about the e-mail...if he changes his routine about his every day life style..i mean,if he comes home really late or gets off from work due to what ever reasons..thats what i mean life style changing...and tell him that he will give you all the passwords on all emails and messenger..so,you can monitor the messages..if,he doesnt want to give you the password..then that means he cannot be trusted>>divorce is bad...but,honesty in the marriage is not there for you as a WIFE...plus,you need to look after your health for your new born...he can get some kind of disease from ladies online...think about your health and your BABY... CONGRADS>>TO YOU ON HAVING A BABY>>>SMILE :-)

Answer 9

Pray for him, be a goo wife and learn to forget! It's so easy to say: divorce, but it's so difficult to be a child with one parent only! Think twice and try to understand where were you both wrong and why it happened (IF it happened!)...we must try to act like real human beings, but it's difficult because everything around us it's how it is, we need help from above, we need to pray more because the times are very bad for our souls that night love and light! Please pray for him, for your child,for you and for your enemies... be the best!

Answer 10

first did he physically cheat on you or only through the email
you need to decide
after that what do you want to do
You have talked to him what is in your heart
What do you want to do if you are stopped at this point maybe you both need to talk to someone your pastor or a counselor
You have a baby to consider and marriage is important :)