i realized i need to work on my esteem first before looking for a mate, what things can i do to make my time 'alone' great and stop looking for a partner?
2007-03-03 16:12:55 · 4 answers · asked by vincent m 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Just live your life without putting an emphasis on looking for a partner. Continue doing what makes you feel good about yourself while trying to build up those areas of your personality which you feel need working on. Spend time doing things you enjoy; make time for friends and family, and for meeting new people and perhaps trying out activities you haven't done in the past.
2007-03-03 16:22:56 · answer #1 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that this will be too much to handle on your own, find out where the free/sliding scale mental health clinic in your area is--and let a therapist help.
Otherwise, go to the library and take out some self-help books on building self-esteem/self-confidence, and some books of positive affirmations.
We do need to put ourselves first, in order to have successful relationships with others, later. Good luck!
2007-03-04 00:28:53 · answer #2 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of people think they need a partner to make things better. you are already on the right track find yourself know yourself and the right partner will come along at the right time. Right a list of the good things you see in yourself, try not to focus on the things u don't like. this sounds crazy but it worked 4 me . look in the mirror and say i love you then your name and see what issues pop up when you do then work on them. one of mine was my nose i hated it, so in front of the mirror I'd say i love my nose there will be lots of tears but that is good cos it means it is working. lots of luck and good on you.
2007-03-04 00:26:52 · answer #3 · answered by Shaz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find some interests and hobbys that you enjoy..experiment til you find some (skiing, hiking, bowling, tennis, golf, yoga, etc).
do things at which you excel (music, drawing, crafts, etc)..this will help you to build you view of self and raise your self-esteem.
you need to learn to love yourself and your life..give yourself the things you are missing..do not expect or look for someone to fill that void...after you have a life in which you like, feel good about and are happy with..adding a partner to enhance it will be great!
2007-03-04 00:24:01 · answer #4 · answered by tara t 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋