Soon i m going to have an arranged marriage where me and my wife dont no each other before....I live in other country cuz of my employment and the only medium of communication is telephone or internet.......How could i make her love and trust me blindly just as some real deep lovers.......ummmm say like Romeo Juliet lol......????
Thanks for all replies.
2007-03-03 16:08:10 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
love isn't an instant chemical reaction.
love, real love, is grown. slowly, patiently... through conversations and events...
don't expect to make love on your wedding night... this will voilate her. if she offers herself to you, show her the proper respect. make sure it's what she wants and not what she's been trained to do...
just take it from there
remember, respect and patience
2007-03-03 16:28:10 · answer #1 · answered by ladrhiana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arranged marriages have worked out for so long. I don't know if I could do that because that is not the society I was raised in. Love though I believe is a decision one makes if you are thinking with your head and not with other parts of your body. No one says you can't date after you are married and that is up to you. Make friends with your wife and talk to her listen to her and tell her she is beautiful. You need to make her feel special and you must open your heart also. May you be blessed in your union and have a great life and my husband and I talked on the Internet and phone for six months before we had our first date we told each other we loved each other on the first date we did not marry for about a year and a half later but you love your wife and all will work out. You seem to care and want it to and that is a great start :)
2007-03-04 00:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by Cheryl J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is always be upfront and honest with her when you talk to her..I dont know what countries yall are from but it is your raising..Since this is an arranged marriage then all you both can do is pray that all will be well..You both need to accept each other for who the person is..Never try to change them..Just be honest,,tell her your fears,,your joys,,talk to her about everything and really get to know all about her to...I do wish the both of you alot of luck and happiness..God bless you
2007-03-04 00:32:56 · answer #3 · answered by glowworm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone knows an arranged marriage has it's triumphs and tradegies.. all you can do is accept her as she is, because she has to accept you also.. just remember she might be asking the same questions that you are asking here.. the only other possibility is to change the customs and traditions of marriage choices, as long as people accept arranged marriages as part of their culture, they will always have the same worries,just remember this is 2007, not 1807,, so i wish you success and try to be a good spouse, and care for her, love will come in time. it is not like instant coffee.
2007-03-04 00:25:31 · answer #4 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arranged marriages though not the norm this days ,they still work.i suggest that in your communication get to know her likes,interest and expectations and court her as you would had you met her on your own.Dont look at it as am arranged marriage but rather as someone you will grow to love.don't pretend to be someone you are not to win her love coz u cant hold the act forever,
Most important i would suggest dont rush into getting kids before you are comfortable in love as kids bring out a different aspect .and you will not have known her.
take your time and wish you well .am sure she is agonising as you are.
good luck to you two.
2007-03-04 00:22:02 · answer #5 · answered by kushi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot make someone love you. If i were you i would not marry her unless it was for love and i dont care what country you are from. Love is awful hard to learn to do when forced into a marriage and you have not choice in who you are marrying. She cannot make you love her either. If you however choose to marry her then maybe someday she will learn to love you but i cannot guarantee this.
2007-03-04 00:25:32 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow,do not let her in your bank account, give her love and affection,,do not have kids right away get to know each other ,never trust a person with your personnel stuff ever,keep that out of her hands, when love is not bound its very easy for her to take your life savings, just be careful with your personnel things.and good luck.
2007-03-04 00:33:58 · answer #7 · answered by justme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love and trust my husband because he's honest and has a good heart. Sorry to burst your bubble, but blind trust does not usually happen-trust is something that has to be earned. The best way to earn it is to be truthful and not give her a reason to doubt you and your sincerity.
2007-03-04 00:21:12 · answer #8 · answered by n2mama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good luck with that one!! i would never marry smeone i have never met nor have an arranged marriage. love and trust take time to grow. you can not make someone love or trust you.
2007-03-04 00:21:00 · answer #9 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good luck wit that if you neva meet her got to no her then your goin off oure faith cuz yall might not be alike but maybe you are...trust wise it'll com with tim....if i were u i'd get to know the person i mearrying b4 i say i do
2007-03-04 00:12:59 · answer #10 · answered by physco_porsche 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋