I need some good advise, on how to write a letter to your spouse of 7 yrs, and is divorcing me, and how i am so sorry for all of the wrong things i have done in my marriage. I have never cheated on my spouse or anything like that, but i have done alot stupid things, without thinking, and it was very wrong for me to do, and please don't critisize me, i am seeking real help. Well, it started when i got stupid and came up with the most outragious idea, that i would use my husband checking account to pay on a bill, without him knowing it, and yes he found out about it, but we talked on the phone, and i told him how sorry i was, and it was a very stupid move, but i didn't learn did I? next thing i did, was i claimed one of my kids on my taxs, and that one is more of a different thing there, he is trying to keep my kids from me etc. all i want to do is make up for my mistakes and wrongs that i have done, can anybody please give me advise on how to write a letter to him?
2007-03-03 16:05:00 · 6 answers · asked by gshawl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just write a letter and write it from your heart. The words will come. Let him know you are getting help and that you are sorry that you have lost him in all of this and wish things could have been different now that you look back at things. You also may need an attorney to fight for your kids. He should not be keeping your kids from you as this is not fair and right. Just continue to get the help you need and change and someday he will see the change in you but sorry to say you will have to prove yourself first and this will take time. I feel you are doing your part by getting help and by apologizing to him. What he does and how he reacts to all of this is up to him now and the ball is in his court. See what happens next. Good luck to you and here comes lots of hugs your way.
2007-03-03 16:21:43 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The warning bells should be sounding. You paid a bill on his checking account?.....what is so wrong with that, you are his wife. You claimed a child on your taxes....whats the big deal....certainly not enough for him to keep the kids from you. I suspect he has made you feel that what you did was reprehensible. I get the feeling that he is a control freak. Maybe write the letter, but dont snivel....tell him you deserve better, you deserve to be treated as his equal....dont apologise for paying a bill out of his checking account or any of the other stuff...it is not bad enough for him to divorce you...so it only remains that he likes to be in control. That is not love and I wouldnt be apologizing for anything. What I would be doing is get yourself a lawyer so that you can get custody or visitation rights to your children. Dont lay down and die, get strong and demand your rights as his wife. Dont let him rule you.....stand your ground and demand your rights.
2007-03-04 00:28:51 · answer #2 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are headed in the right direction by stating the things you did wrong and apologizing for them. Tell him how you want to show him he can trust you again. I can tell in your question you are very sincere so I can only imagine he will feel the same way. I wouldn't focus on why you did the things you did but telling him how you realized you did wrong and holding yourself accountable for the mistakes. Ask him to give you a set amount of time to show him you have changed before going through the divorce.
Good luck to you!
2007-03-04 00:13:37 · answer #3 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to figure out how to write it on your own. Nobody else can write how sorry you are for what you did. Pull up your word program and just start typing. It will kind of fall out as it should. It's gonna be hard at first, but then all these different things will come out of your mind that you will want to say to him. Good luck and I hope he doesn't take your kids away.
2007-03-04 00:10:01 · answer #4 · answered by Candi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be glad your rid of him. Why weren't you on the checking account? After all you are his wife! As far as the kids are concerned with your taxes, who has custody? If its you or you were still married and he is filing separately that is not legal for him to claim single and the kids. It sounds like he is a control freak. Get a lawyer, you have rights namely half of everything.
2007-03-04 00:15:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to go to court and file to see your kids no he dont have the right to keep the kids from you everyone make a misstake dont wirte anything its may bite you in the ***
2007-03-04 04:10:14 · answer #6 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋