can i let my 4 months baby cry ? i want him to get used to sleep on his crib alone.?

Answer 1

I know some people that let their babies cry themselves to sleep. I can’t do that. I have a 4 month old and recently she started to sleep in her crib. For the first 4 month of her life she slept in a basinet in our bedroom. When we first tried to put her down in to the crib she would cry and really hate it there, mobiles, toys, nothing helped. We put the crib in to our bedroom and once she fell asleep as she usually does I moved her in to the crib. At first when she woke up in the crib she would start crying again, I would pick her up. Calm her down and place back in to the crib, she would fall asleep. After a few days we were able to place her in to the crib to fall asleep without her crying. In a month or so we will try putting her in to her own room. Babies need time to adjust; I would advise you to make a smooth transaction. Place him in the crib when she is wide awake, let him play with toys there. Then place him in the crib for a nap after she fell asleep in his usual place, be there to comfort her when he wakes up. Move the crib into your bedroom so that he could sense you. He will get used to it and will come to understand that the crib is not a scary place. Good luck.

Answer 2

What you want, you will find lol does not matter as much as before you were a parent. Add a nightlight or a little music and make a routine of bedtime so the baby adjusts.I don't know what calms your baby so it might not be nusic but you would know. Stay with them until they fall alseep.
Don't expect overnight results and give it some time. I totally understand if you are tired and just want them to go to bed but it just does not work like that. You reap that karma my friend.You put in the time now, and you don't have to put in the time later.
If you are feeling stressed and resentful about putting in time as a parent OR just want to unload on someone there are support groups, parent groups/classes and hotlines where you can get some emotional support and releif. IT is the hardest job there is.

Answer 3

It is not recommended that you let a baby cry for more than 10 minutes. It raises their blood pressure and causes anxiety in them. There are different methods for getting your baby to sleep through the night, but it's recommended that you dont start them until the baby is 6 months old. That is the age where there is no nutritional need for nighttime feedings. The Ferber method is a really great method. Unlike what some people think it's not about letting a baby cry it out. Read up on it and see if it looks right for you, but remember not to do it until 6 months of age.

Answer 4

Yes, you CAN let your baby cry. But there are smoother ways to transition your baby to sleeping in his crib alone. I read "The no-cry sleep solution" and even though I didn't actively apply even 1/2 of the methods in the book, I was able to get my baby to sleep on his own. Understanding the things you are doing throughout the day that reinforce his behaviour in needing sleep aids (being rocked, held, fed to sleep) will help you get him to stop. Its not the baby that needs to change, it the parents style that needs to change. Please become informed about your own personal parenting style before all of a sudden switching your style and confusing your baby by making him cry it out.

Answer 5

yes you can let him cry ~ for about 5 minutes at a time....then you tiptoe in and check him....not saying too much or touching him too much....then go out again.....then another 5 minutes...and go back in...if he stops crying when he sees you...then hes fine....try it for 10 minutes next....and so on....my baby was 4 months when he learned to sleep thru the night in his own bed using this method and he is a healthy well adjusted lwell loved 11 year old ~ they learn that you are still there but that they cant manipulate you with crying ~ you will know if its the kind of cry for attention or whether he's not well.......this way works wonders ~ good luck :D

Answer 6

I have a four month old and he sleeps in his crib but his crib is next to my bed. Both of my two girls did that too when they were small. I keep them close to me due to they need to know that your there for them. Also taking Child Psychology class recently, you cannot spoil a child at this young age, they get spoiled when they are much older like 1 years older. At this young age, they need the basic necessities in life and that is to be held, cradled, sung to, changed and fed.

Answer 7

No, it's very harmful to his brain physically. When babies cry, their brains flood with a stress hormone called cortisol. This hormone impairs learning, causes anxiety and depression, and creates a child who will become an adult with very poor stress responses.

It also is a complete violation of his trust in you. He should just fall asleep nursing at this point - and according to evolution, he should be sleeping with his mother.

Here's some info on babies and sleep: http://www.naturalchild.org/guest/pinky_mckay.html

Answer 8

Everyone has differing opinions on if we should let our babies cry it out or not. I for one, don't agree with letting them cry themselves to sleep. I tried it once (on the advice of my mother-in law) and it nearly broke my heart. Never again. My children grew up to be fine young adults.

He can get use to sleeping in his crib, start him out slowly, with you rubbing his back or singing him a song, or humming, or reading him a book. You may try giving him his bath at bed time, with calming bath product. They have for babies. A friend of mine does this routine with her grand-baby, and says it works like a charm. After the bath, he is ready to sleep.

They get use to a routine and if you stick with it, they will follow suit. This will also get you ready to be strong when he gets older and you want to set a routine, your and him will already be use to the process. It will make future rule setting easier for you and him to get use to.

Answer 9

Keep him content and feeling loved and secure. He'll feel secure if he knows his Mama will nurture him and take care of his needs. If you let him just cry, you're not taking care of his needs. When he's contented, you can leave him alone in his crib. If you leave him there crying you'll be dealing with his cries for a lot longer (in terms of months or years) than if you take care of his emotional needs.

You'll learn to identify his cries. If it's an exhausted "I'm-so-sleepy!" cry, it might be okay to lay him in the crib if you sense he'll go to sleep very soon and you stay there rubbing his chest and tummy and humming to him and telling him how much you love him.

Any other kinds of cries, please don't leave him there.

Answer 10

Letting a baby cry is fine, that is the way that they communicate, although you may want to wait on putting your child in a crib. It is a good idea to get your child in the habit of sleeping by itself, but also it may be a little early, either way it is your choice. Good Luck