I always feel like if this is what I'm thinking about then our marraige is probably doomed. My wife has alienated herself from all of my friends and most of my family. I can't stand not being around the people I love aside from my wife. When marriage depends on such vague qualities such as trust and shared values, how does one keep a marriage healthy and whole? The emotions are SO intense -- on days we are loving eachother it is total bliss ... and on the days we're fighting it becomes the worst day of my life!! Sometimes I just feel like I'm better off alone. I feel like I'm putting a lot of effort into it, but things can go quickly from great to horrible. I'm okay with making tradeoffs, but not at the expense of losing long-time friends and family -- when is it time to call it quits and start over??
2007-03-03 15:50:06 · 13 answers · asked by misterlyle 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well if you haven't been together for 10 years bail quick before she takes half.
2007-03-03 15:55:17 · answer #1 · answered by rashmaster13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG... all the other posters are such quiters. You have to make a choice... wife or everything else? Well if you did not want her above everything else, then you lied when you made your vows. The problem is that you are selfish. I am sure she is too, but that can be worked out. Forsake all others, wife is number one always. You have a responsiblity to work it out. If she leaves you whatever, then she is a loser, but if you leave her then you are just giving up, like a homo gives up on sweet poontang.
2007-03-03 16:07:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing is ask yourself why she is alienated from your friends and family.Are they all creeps?If not then the problem is her and if you dump everyone else for her, then she will eventually turn on you when she runs out of other people.The best thing is for you 2 to go see a counselor so someone impartial can hear both sides.The leading cause of divorce is selfishnes.Both sides have to be totally honest with theirselves and be willing to change in order to make a marriage work.
2007-03-03 15:56:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a ten year relationship with a man that went pretty much the same as what you're describing...
we were alienated from almost every peripheral person in each other's lives
i don't know about him though i have my suspicions
but, i was diagnosed as bi-polar
the passions ran deep with chemical imbalances
i've been medicated for a long time now, and i'm on to a new and much healthier life. i have a husband now, and a family....
there's life after passion, i promise
2007-03-03 16:09:14 · answer #4 · answered by ladrhiana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys are not completely done with each other so you need to see a marriage counselor immediately to work out what is going on! I personally think that as long as there are good days in your relationship then there is hope!
2007-03-03 15:56:00 · answer #5 · answered by Littlesby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude i have been down this road twice, the first time i lost friends and the second time i alienated my family. Its not worth it, your heart will heal but family is there for life and friends you love and trust are just to hard to come by. let it go
2007-03-03 15:56:12 · answer #6 · answered by chemreaction 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, compromise. Call family and friends whenever you want, see family on Sunday for dinner (as many married couples do) and friends one night a week. Why does it have to be all or nothing?? I didn't like all my husband's family or friends, so I rarely went for Sunday dinner or out with his friends. Why does she have to be included? How many spouses like their inlaws or friends? You're hoping for utopia - reach for compromise.
2007-03-03 15:56:26 · answer #7 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your wife. tell her that although you love her, you need to keep your family and friends in your life. that when she married you you were a packaged deal. ask her what her feeling are on this matter. reassure her that no one can take her place but you need to have some fun that includes family and friends.
2007-03-03 15:58:00 · answer #8 · answered by territheterribleliar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is getting like this also....what i would do is let it be known what you wont....your wife should see your side and you both can work on the problem together....I hope and pray everything works out ....
2007-03-03 15:55:57 · answer #9 · answered by Dawn l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sound like this may be the only place that this will go. it really
sound lilke she controlling and that not good. if you cant see/be
with family or friends. time to get counseling , or time to cut
it loose.
2007-03-03 15:56:58 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋