the woman is known for being very friendly with men. She also keeps calling my husbands phone even though I've told her to stop. She also has come over to my house many times even after being told to stay away. My husband says that there is nothing going on .that it is just business( my husband does custom auto upholstery) She has called my work and left word for me to call her but when I did call her she said she wanted to get everything out on the table but then said that we could meet somewhere..... but she never shows up to meet me. She has left several threatning messages on my husbands phone saying that we'de be sorry that we treated her like so many others had done..... what should I do???
2007-03-03 15:42:47 · 54 answers · asked by somelike 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He doesn't know that I found this picture yet
2007-03-03 15:44:00 · update #1
Ask him what she is doing there. Tell and show him what you found and watch his expression as he tries to answer the question. If need be take him on the Maury show and have him take a lie detector test. Why would he have a picture if it is just business??? Does not make sense to me and this seems suspicious.
2007-03-03 15:47:42 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As you described this Woman it seems like she is a person to be considered almost dangerous, if I were you I would have called the authorities and make a report on her for Harassment, and also a peace bond, I am sure that if you do that and she still tries to stalked you, then she will be arrested, and be in jail. She sounds like she might be disturbed or some of her marbles are missing, if you know what I mean. Maybe your Husband had something to do with her, so, she thinks that gives her the right to get angry. Remember there is no wrath like a Woman scorned, is so true, with a woman like this one. I hope that you will be able to find a solution to this big problem you are facing, because it is scary to have someone like this Woman be stalking you and your Husband. If he really was the culprit with what is happening to you both, shame on him.
2007-03-09 13:43:32 · answer #2 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I get the sense that you aren't asking the moral majority in here if you should leave... you want to know how to get this woman out of your lives. If that's the case, it will take both of you -- you and your husband -- to present a united front.
Tell your husband you found the photo, and about the phone calls. Tell him you want him to tell her to get out of both of your lives. Make him tell you the truth (this will hurt, because he has clearly been involved with this woman). Then, turn the tables. YOU call her. Tell her you know about the affair, and it is over. Hand the phone to your husband, and have him repeat the same thing. Once it's out in the public, there's very little harm she can do.
You and your husband need to go to counselling to make your marriage straong again, and if he cheats again, you should have him castrated... ;-)
2007-03-11 01:50:30 · answer #3 · answered by kelannde 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
***READ THIS ONE, PLEASE***
You know your husband. Has he recently changed some things about himself? Has he started to work-out seemingly out of the blue? is he taking more time than would normally be usual for personal grooming? Has he changed his appearance, such as clothing or hairstyle? When your intimate, is he trying new things, or asking you to do things in a different way? If you answer yes to any of these questions, you may need to take a closer look at the person you are married to. If it appears to you that he is the same man as you married, than it may be that this woman is being vindictive. Maybe she made an advance on your husband and he turned her down and now she wants to make him suffer by putting doubt in you head. As I said at the beginning, YOU KNOW YOUR HUSBAND, and you will know if things have subtly changed, or not.
2007-03-08 04:51:45 · answer #4 · answered by the_watcher_74 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow how many cars does she own? where do i begin? Take the picture and place it on the dinner table.Calmly explain how you were getting extra money and found it. Get the phone with both of on the line and have him end it. Either you or her. However during the conversation inform him of her tricks. If after the call ends he is not repentant then get proof and a divorce. Good Luck
2007-03-11 15:38:38 · answer #5 · answered by tastyflow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you already know pretty much about this lady, And if she has been harassing you you should tell your husband that he had better put a stop to it or since you have already talked with this lady and she is leaving threatening messages to you & your husband then you should tell her yourself or call the police and press charges against her. You should also tell your husband that you have found the picture of her and if she seems so harmless to him that he will not put a stop to her harassement then he should go live with her so that you don't have to put up with anymore of his/her bull **** anymore.
Good Luck!
2007-03-11 10:13:45 · answer #6 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can afford it, hire a PI. If you can't take a day off from work or leave early and go to her work, if you know where it is and what time she leaves. Confront her in the parking lot and ask her what she needs to get out on the table. After that you can go get your husband's side of the story. You'll know who's lying.
2007-03-03 15:51:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, report her threats to your local police department -- if you have saved the voicemails, play them for someone who can help you fill out the paperwork to get a restraining order that will force this woman to stop calling you and stay 500 feet away from your home and work -- and will have legal consequences for her if she violates it.
Second, you'd better find out why your husband has this b****'s picture in his wallet -- that sounds more than a little shady to me, and I don't have a suspicious nature!
Finally, stop trying to talk it out with this crazy person: she is BAD news and you don't need that in your life.
2007-03-11 14:45:44 · answer #8 · answered by bluestocking1967 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, your married so there is no easy way out of this. All ways lead to confrontation, I recommend catching him in the act. This is not business anymore, something is going on! Dont be the one caught snooping through the others things. Not the way to support your arguement. He will end up saying" I cant believe your snooping through my things" I would also stop trying to contact this woman, to much drama and who knows the true story. Investigate further and find out with your own eyes. if it continues I know a great investigator
2007-03-03 15:51:16 · answer #9 · answered by chemreaction 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mention that she is harrassing you and leaving threatening messages and then tell your husband that you found a photo of her in his wallet. See what he says. If he says you had no right to look in his wallet, then tell him he has no right to have a photo of this psycho in his wallet. You must get to the bottom of this. She looks like a fatal attraction psycho and if she comes near your home again or leaves more threatening messages, always have a tape recorder ready, tape her threat and then report it to the police. Make sure you get a police report on record if she continues to harrass you. Also get your husband involved. Why should you be enduring this yourself. If he is not guilty of anything, then he should tell her to back off and get lost. This woman could be dangerous.
2007-03-03 15:50:55 · answer #10 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋