I'm 27 yo, married and I'm from Brazil. My cousin lives in USA and he came for some days here and brought an american friend. I talked a lot with his friend and ended up falling in love with him. I told him that I'd like to be with him (just the days he was here) and he told me he wanted too but he couldn't, 'cause I'm married and he believes in karma. He already left but I keep thinking about him. I talk with him on internet and phone, should I say something about it again?
2007-03-03 15:10:29 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sweetheart, your married. Dont cheat, cheating hurts the other person. What you are doing right now is emotionally cheating on your husband. If you want to be with the American then leave yoiur husband, divorce him and pursue this new love. If you arent ready to leave your husband then I would leave this matter alone.
2007-03-03 15:18:57 · answer #1 · answered by dionne m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am from Brazil too, and I understand you predicament very well. We Brazilians fall in love very easily. There is nothing wrong with that, it is in our loving nature. However, the reason why our head is above the heart in the body is for it to do just that: control our feelings and NOT to act on all of them.
Feelings come and go, but the acts we commit based on these feelings sometimes have lasting consequences to our future happiness.
Society is full of broken families and dysfunctional families because of people who did not learn this simple thing: The head is above the Heart! Let reason control your actions.
Not too many years ago you made a solemn vow to love and respect your husband, rich or poor, health or sick. If you did that in a Church, God gave you a special power to be able to be faithful to that vow. Claim that power when the pull of the heart gets too strong. Cut off that relationship, even e-mails. It can only damage your marriage, and it won't make you happy in the least, even if you went ahead and slept with this guy.
2007-03-03 23:31:54 · answer #2 · answered by Roberto B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, basically, the guy from Brazil has morals and values and you don't. Come on, you are married. Get over it. Stop emailing him, chatting with him, stalking him. Concentrate those feelings on your husband. And, if you are not in love with your husband anymore then you need to deal with that issue separately and not counting on this other guy. Don't leave one man for the other. Let's get real. How can you look yourself in the mirror if you cheat on your husband?
2007-03-03 23:57:08 · answer #3 · answered by sadmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are married, so leave it along,, he was only here for a couple
of days, so to be in love, there something that going on and
instead of trying to get with him. try to work out the problem
in your marriage. because there work to do.
2007-03-03 23:50:37 · answer #4 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋