baby crying???

Question

My friends baby wont stop crying at bed time he is 9 months old and has done this since he was born. Every doctor she has asked tells her this is normal, we think there is a way to get him to stop but don't know where to start. Please help.

thank you

He will go to sleep after being rocked or held, but he won't stay asleep. He will wake at least 3-4 times durring the night in a frantic panic. He slept through the night only 2 times since he was born. I 've tried letting him cry it out many times, however he gets himself 10 times more worked up then when I started. He cried for an hour and a half untill I finally gave up on it.

Answer 1

It usually takes consistency with infants this age - and mine only stopped crying at bedtime at age 14 months.

Start a bedtime routine and be very consistent.
Ours is: brush teeth, two books, and a bottle of water then lay down and mommy gives a kiss good night. She can hear the tv slightly from her room - and about every 15 min I would go in a say softly - shhh night night time honey go to sleep - and I would leave again. She went from me needing to go in twice a night, to once a night, to not at all - she may have cried a bit but it only lasted a few minutes. Now most of the time, unless she is sick, she doesn't cry at all - in fact if it is close to her bedtime and she is irritable, I ask "Do you want to go night-night" and she will respond "yes" quite often.

Don't worry - time and patience will take hold and he will understand soon. YES it is perfectly normal.

Answer 2

What is his bedtime routine like? For starters, there's nothing wrong with a nine month old that cries at bed time. The doctor is right. That is perfectly normal. Does he sleep by himself? Does he eat right before bed? Is she trying a warm bath before bed? If she has to hold him and rock him to sleep, or even lay down with him until he falls asleep, then she should do that. I know how stressful it can be. My 10 month old is currently going through a horrid stage. He *never* goes to sleep on his own anymore. But I just give him a bottle and lay down with him. Works everytime.

Answer 3

Do you mean he cries for ten or fifteen minutes before settling down? Or do you mean he cries for hours and hours? Most babies will cry for a few minutes at bedtime but if the baby is crying for a long time then there is some reason for it. Check to see that he is dry, warm, fed, and not in pain. If none of them it may be that laying flat bothers him-try elevating the head of his bed. Some children sleep better with a bear or soft toy in the bed with them-alternate the one you use so the child doesnt become too attached to one lovey. Some babies sleep better once you get them off the bottle-they arent there waiting for you to bring one anymore. Make sure baby is tired when put to bed - is he taking long naps cause you may need to wake him so he can be good and tired when its bed time (a one hour nap is good). If none of these work ask your doctor.

Also if your doctor isnt helping you and answering your questions then maybe you need a new doctor.

Answer 4

Some babies suffer from separation anxiety, but the way they tell when the mother is close to them is by the warmth and scent. If you try to make sure he is properly fed, warm and place a blouse of the mother preferably something soft like a t-shirt that she has worn) close to where he or she can smell it it may help, also play soft music in the room before and during sleep.The use of very small amounts of a good quality Lavender Essential Oil may help to calm too. This is after taking in consideration possible milk intolerance and abdominal gas.

Answer 5

You may want to make sure the last bottle at night is thickened with baby cereal , about 2 or 3 teaspoons in the bottle and shake well , this will eliminate the possibility of hunger. Be sure to make a bigger hole in the nipple, careful not too big. Gas is also a possibility. I forgot the name but it's like a baby Gas-X. Give a nice warm bath about an hour before bedtime. If none of these things work he may be in pain, give one dose of children's motrin that works better than children's tylenol in my opinion. Good Luck.

I am a mother of 5 , which includes a set of twin girls!!! I hope this helps you, and your welcome.

Answer 6

If it's mostly at bed time try changing location of the crib and mattress as well, sometimes it just the room temperature or the lighting or dryness try changing rooms. Is there somethings you change about that time? sound,tempt,light locations all make difference to same being we take for granted.

Answer 7

Have you tried putting him in his cot, but sitting with to start with, stroking his face? Then as he calms down gradually reduce contact with him. As he gradually calms down move away slowly until eventually you have left the room. Have tried this before with the babies I look after and it does work. I hope it works for you. Good luck!

Answer 8

Enter controlled crying into search engine. Be prepared for absolute misery, controlled crying is really hard, but it does work.