I think the person who said familiarity hit the nail on the head. There are times when nothing can compare to the comfort of that. Even if you know you're going to end up fighting over something eventually...
2007-03-03 15:08:04
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answered by mustihearthis 4
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It's not love at all. It's partially feelings of inadequacy and I can't figure out the rest of what it is. Probably a combination of fear of lonliness, and rejection. For the most part, women who do this tend need a man in thier lives. They don't know how to function alone.
They typically see other people, maybe friends, family, or general strangers around town who are with someone and happy. They feel that they want to be that way too. They feel that they can get that if they want, and it should come easy to them. However, it doesn't come easy, and usually due to personal inhibitions. When they find themselves single for too long they evaluate their romantic options. Usually they will consider previous relationships, and use those to evaluate what they want in another relationship. It tends to be a identical markup of what they had in that relationship. So, what better a way to get what they used to have, the happiness or what-have-you that they found in that relationship? They go back to the guy who used to cheat on them, or used to beat them, or make them feel like **** because thats all they truly know of a happy relationship. The gratification they recieved from this person is incomprable to any other relationship they've had. So, they go back. :(
2007-03-03 23:12:14
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answered by Mr Cooper 2
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Love can make you stupid, that's for sure.
Usually whatever was wrong in the relationship, will not look so bad when someone is desperate, needy, or insecure. They think "ah! his beating the snot outta me isn't so bad" "he pays all my medical bills" so they stay or crawl back. It takes a very strong willed person to resist some pulls and attractions.
I know if my ex begged me on his knees, I wouldn't go back to him. I might have been alittle vulnerable right after we broke up, but after a week or two, pain became anger....So, now no worries. I good without him and enjoy it. I wish many women out there the same hope for revelation.
2007-03-03 23:08:32
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answered by Kurius_Kitten 4
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I don't believe it is that simple. There is more to a relationship than love or intelligence. People have needs. In some cases these needs are so strong that even a bad or abusive relationship is better than none. Consider children. Neglected children will misbehave just to get attention, any attention. Dogs are the same way. People are a little more complicated than that. BUT, hopefully you get the idea. People have needs.
2007-03-03 23:17:56
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answered by Jack 7
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I totally don't get it! The only time I went crawling back to my ex, well it wasn't really like that, he was going to ontario for the summer and i was going to newfoundland and we decided to break up and see other people over the summer. and then after summer we got back together. But thats the only time i have ever went out with and ex. But i think its stupid, if he can dump you once, he can do it again!
2007-03-03 23:07:56
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answered by Michelle G 2
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It is because women naturally need to be needed and wanted , they need to feel love, and sometimes when they can't find it they go back to the closest thing to it. It most likley isnt love- its infatuation, which in turn they are propably using subconsicously to filll a void in their life, but that void will always be there unless they come to a realization of what it actually is and then fill that void with something productive.
2007-03-03 23:18:08
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answered by Foosa 1
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i'm a woman and i have never nor will i ever crawl back to an ex! but... i think it's stupidity if a girl is going to give up whatever self-respect and dignity she has just to get back with someone who isn't right for them in the moment!
2007-03-03 23:05:21
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answered by Curious Blair 3
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For me it was being naive and having to much trust and hope. I trusted and hoped that the guy would change, but he never did. Luckily I'm out of that relationship for good. It wasn't for "love," it was just for the plain fact that I was young and idealistic and I wanted the "happy ending."
But every woman's situation is different. Some go back for money, other for drugs, other for "love."
2007-03-03 23:08:27
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answered by Shannon A 4
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I'm a women and I don't crawl back to my ex. it is not love just stupid.
2007-03-03 23:20:03
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answered by jessa_1985 1
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A little bit of both......I personally don't crawl back to my ex's because I left them for a reason.
2007-03-03 23:04:19
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answered by Anonymous
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