What should I do?

Question

I am a college student that has been kicked out of the dorms for bad grades. I live really close so I used to stay the night in my old room with my ex-roomies all the time, until my mom found the student handbook and let me know that I was breaking the rules. I'd like to shrug her off, but she pays for my school.

The problem is that I'm up at school right now with the flu and I don't think I should drive home, since I'm dizzy. I don't want to disobey my parents, but I really don't feel like driving home...

What should I do?

Answer 1

is it really against the rules to stay with your friends, do they really keep up with stuff like that? DONT DRIVE!! If they ask tell them your friends are taking care of you while you are sick. There should be nothing wrong with that, especially if its over grades and not behavior. Your parents will get over it if it means risking or not risking your and many other lives. They should, anyway!

Answer 2

Well your mom is footing the bill so you should do as she asks, especially since it's the rules anyway.

However if your really and truly legitimately sick I guess spending one night there wouldn't be a problem. I'm sure though if you called your parents they could come and pick you up, or maybe a friend could drive you home, or even if your close you could try walking home. You have a few options to save you from breakign the rules and staying over, but if you TRULY feel that badly I don't see how one night, just this once could hurt.

Answer 3

Your mom sounds like she really cares about you. If you are really sick, then you should call your mom up and tell her. I'll bet she will understand. She might even send over some soup. Just tell here you will come home as soon as can. Some moms just flat out don't believe you when you tell her something due to a past lie. If this is the case, find one of your friends you know, or your mom especially, that is honest. He or she might convince your mom.

Now about your place issue. I think you should go home as soon as your better. If you really want to live away from your parents, show them you are responsible by raising your grades or attending all your classes. They should should see your improvement and be lenient to your living on your own deal. Maybe even get a part time job, but don't let it affect your grades.

Answer 4

Well, if your parents are understanding in any way whatsoever, I would call them and let them know I was sick, and that I'd like to either cancel or postpone the trip. It's not a big deal and you could easily reschedule for your next weekend or whenever.

If they're NOT understanding, and you know they're going to give you impatience, I would tell a small fib and say my car was leaking oil, or one of the tires went flat and I have no spare etc......after all, if you have no transportation, you can;t go anywhere ;)

Good luck, and don't drive dizzy!!

Answer 5

Just tell your parents what is going on. I am sure they would not want you to drive with the flu. They are only looking out for you and this is a situation that I think they would understand if you went against what they said. Your health is what is most important, to you and to them.

I hope you feel better!

Answer 6

Find a new mommy and give all your old roomies the flu while you are at it. The reason your grades are bad is you are screwing off. Get a job and join the real world.

Answer 7

Stay with your old roomies until you get better.

Why are you doing so poorly in school? Not studing? Partying too much, Sleeping too much? Skipping classes? Not doing the work? Why the bad grades? It' sounds like it's time for a little "Come to Jesus meeting " with your parents. Your grades suck, you got kicked out of the dorm because your grades suck, you've been breaking the rulles by staying with your old roomies - which puts them at risk too. I willing to bet you don't really care about rules or consequences anyway, or what happens to anyone, even yourslf, - you just do what you feel, when you feel like it.

So like I said - I think it's time for a little meeting with Mummy & Da. You need to be straight with them for once and tell them what you've been up to, and then save them from shelling out any more of their hard earned money, money that you're just wasting. I'm not saying you're stupid, but you sure sound like your not interested, or at the very least not ready yet for another 5+ years of school. It sounds like you need to get a job, and get your own apartment, and do some much needed growing up..

Listen, I'm not trying to insult you, I think I understand a little bit of what you might be going through. When I finished HS, I worked construction for the summer, then went to college. I dropped out and joined the Marines at 17. I spent more than 2 tours of duty in Viet Nam before I was wounded a 2nd time, and coould not return to active duty. Once I recovered from my physical wounds, I went back to college, I made it through 1 trimester and dropped out again. College just wasn't for me . It was'nt hard, - it was borning, and it was taught by too many anti-war liberals who were more interested in challenging my being in Viet Nam than in their Class room. So I went back overseas and for the next twenty some years I worked construction all over the World..During that time, Between Viet Nam and those twenty years working all over the world, I learned more than what some college class rooms could ever have taught me about myself and life. I became fluent in several languages, learned how to inspire, train,and lead men. Learned how to plan, and execute a plan, when to stick to the plan, and when to go to a contingency plan. I I learned when to stand and fight, and when to pack it up and move off as quickly as possible.IIearned to read people, and take swift and decisive action when needed. I learned that sometimes you fight, and sometimes you compromise. Sometimes you speak up, and sometimes you shut up, but you NEVER GIVE UP.

Lastly, you need to know that YOU are the only one that can make YOU happy, sad, lonely, in love, crabby, satisfied - whatever, so never rely on others to give you your life or your will, make your own decisions.

Answer 8

Call your mom. Maybe she should come & get you. Whatever you do don't drive while sick. You could get in an accident.

Hope you feel better soon.

Answer 9

Just stay with your ex-roomies, I am sure that your mother will understand if you told her that you are sick and can't drive.

Answer 10

Call and tell them your sick and get a hotel room. They can call the hotel to prove it. Besides, you can stay with friends on the weekends.

Tough Luck! That would suck