Does anyone regret the direction their lives have taken?

Question

Do you ever wonder what would have happened if you'd chosen another path in your life? Do you regret getting married? Do you wish you'd had more time to be single? Do you wish you'd gotten more of an education? Travelled more? Anybody feel like they're stuck in a rut they'll never get out of and they're not even 30 yet? I see my life for the next 50 years....coming home to my kids (whom I love and would never change), spending weekends alone because hubby wants to go out with friends, me being the responsible one....being unhappy, unfulfilled, lonely no matter what I say to him...just wondering if I'm alone

Answer 1

By no means are you alone. I think lots of people regret decisions they made. Take me for instance. I'm 40 and I guess I'm in the beginning of a mid life crisis. Cause I wake up everyday regreting the paths in life that I did not take. It's not that I hate my current life. But I have missed out on so much. I have lived such a by the book, take no chances, straight lace, plain vanilla kind of life. I mean I have never taken any chances or do anything adventursome or daring. I'm 40 and I never sowed a single wild oat. But now I'm married with kids, a home, stable job, etc. So i feel like I'm in no position to start sowing any wild oats now. So i really regret never living it up or having any wild times to look back on now. And I dont know how to deal with it. I'm definetly feeling like I'm stuck in a rut.

I guess I said all of this simply to say, you are not alone. Most of us probably have regrets over our decisions. I honestly think I can understand, at least a little bit, how you feel. The real danger lies in dwelling so much over paths not taken that you start missing out on the path you are currently on. I wish you well and hope things turn out for you.

Answer 2

That's a good question...I don't regret my life. There are moments I wished that I could have done some things differently. For example, I am recently divorced but still love my ex-husband. Although, deep down I know the choice was the right choice; but I wished things could have been different. But it is what it is ; ) I went back to school to further my education but wished I had done it years ago. But I am doing it now. I am doing well and look forward to graduation. I think everybody wished we could have done things differently in life. But we all have chosen different paths that has placed us here....now. If we don't like what is going on, we must make take the steps to make it happen. No one can do it. If there are things bothering you at home with hubby...talk with him. Communication is the key, take it from me : ) Been there, done that. Just talk with him and explain your feelings. Do not do it when you are upset because he will get upset. Then make plans for you to do something that you may enjoy outside of the home. Another example, a knitting class, an excel class, a crafts class at one of the fabric stores. Therefore, you don't feel so lonely at home with the kids all the time. Everybody need a little space from home and its nothing wrong with that...do something that you will enjoy doing. Schedule it once ot twice during the week. Think about it and make it happen. Good Luck. ; )

Answer 3

No i do not anymore But years ago i did when i was not living right. Now that I have God in my life i have no regrets:) I am happier and more satisfied in my life then what i have ever been. God has been so good to me with my wonderful husband and children. No i do not wish i had more time to be single as being single was too lonely and sad for me. I do not regret marrying my wonderful husband at all as he is the best thing other then my kids and God that has happened to me in my life. I do not feel i am stuck in a rut at all in my life. I am so sorry you feel this way about your life. I hope things get better for you soon. You also may need marriage counseling and help for your marriage and life as well.

Answer 4

your not alone. I can tell you men seem to settle down more in thier mid to late 30s. So there is hope, but they still dont get to our level hehe. when hubby gets back do a girls night out. you will feel better. Or call a friend whom also has kids, and do a sleep over. while the kids play together and stay up late so can you. Girl you have kids, your not dead. go have some fun. you just need a good night of laughing.

Answer 5

My life is wonderful and I don't regret one single day of any of it! I believe everything happens in our lives for a reason. I am where I am now because that is my 'plan' in life. People are never too old to sit back and say 'I wish I would have done this or that' - just get off your butt and go do it! You want more education, go back to school. You hate your career, change it! You and only you make your choices in your life! Don't play the part of a victim...you control your present therefore you can mold your future....not happy, change it!

Tori

Answer 6

At times, I've always wondered what it would be like if I had walked a different path in my life. I don't regret marrying my second husband, but I wonder how it would have been if I had taken a little bit more time before marrying him. I married my second husband only 2 months after my divorce was final from my first husband.

Answer 7

I would have liked all those things on your list, it makes it difficult when you have kids to take care of, but I think its time to start going out to girl night out get a babysitter, get all dolled up and go out with the girls have some fun at least once a month believe me it could make all the difference although you will find your husband wondering why and maybe getting upset but it works both ways. So have some fun dress up like a hot sexy mama and feel like a women once in while Good luck.

Answer 8

Man, I know what you mean, I get that alot.
My family moves pretty frequently. Just when i got settled in the area. Got good friends, thinkin' im guna be life long friends. People I like, girls i got crushes on.....
WHEN BAM! i have to suddenly move, due to parent's job offer.
That's when i regret on going out with friends more often, asking a girl on a date, but losing my only opportunity that i had.
I wonder what would things have been like if i made a simple descisions back then. Those things you can regret.

SO>..... WHAT YOU SHOLD DO is take acitons now!!!
Go out and do what you want to do, but try to follow your instincts

Answer 9

That cabin fever really gets to you when hubby goes out all the time leaving you home. Been there, done that... and got the hell out. Yes, i regret having married him but I will never regret the boys we had. I have sole custody and he's off into his own world of high risk lifestyle (drugs). If I never met him, I wouldnt have gotten hooked on drugs. Now I am battling it. But most importantly, my beautiful boys will have me for life for as long as I keep battling the addiction.

Answer 10

No. I wouldn't trade a thing.
The only regret I have is letting my brother drink so heavily for so long without directly telling him to stop. He's 13 years older and I just never felt that it was my place to tell him, but I wish I had. I think his life would have definitely taken a better direction. That's my only regret.