I'm very open with my wife, and have been for many years. I think that she is amazingly hot, but continually dresses like a hobo. Ugly baggy jean, lesbo hiking boots, baggy sweaters and shirts. Honestly, she could lose a few glamour pounds (she's 5'5" 145lbs), but I love her curves. I can't get enough. I beg her to dress up when we go out to dinner, and when we have chances to be intimate at home. I love how she looks in lingerie, high heels, really anything sexy. Why do I have to live unfulfilled? What can I do to get her to listen to me? Thanks!
2007-03-03 14:21:21 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
#1, Sue, you are a bona fide *****. #2, I do all that I can to get my wife to open up to me. I work my *** off at work, 50-60 hours a week just so she can stay home with our one child. When I come home, I help clean up the messes that aren't picked up from the night before. I take her out to dinner, I even dress up in slacks, coat, and tie! I'm a good Dad, and I do all the things I believe a husband should. I watch her favorite shows with her, listen to her, do everything. All I ask in return is that she be for intimate, and fulfill my fantasies/desires. I'm not asking for anything hardcore, I just want to feel wanted, and for her to want me in return. Is a little sensuality from my wife too much to ask? I guess it might be!
2007-03-03 15:38:49 · update #1
My justification? I do enough already. There is only so much you can do for someone. She is my wife and she needs to adhere to her husband, just like I do for her. There is the justification.
2007-03-04 01:56:23 · update #2
Really, Sue, you are a *****. Sounds like a typical frustrated husband to me. He works hard, and just wants to feel wanted by his wife. I too wish my wife would dress up more often for me...if more women (and not frigid ones like Sue) would take care of their husband's needs, there would be a lot less adultery and divorce in this world. I think that sometimes, in this age of equal rights in the workplace, that women forget about their partners at home...and that husbands and wives are to submit to each other.
2007-03-03 15:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by Superscoot52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her on the Maury show and let her have a free makeover. Maybe she will love this and want to dress better and change afterwards. Maybe she does not feel good about her own body right now and this is why she does not feel like dressing up and looking good. Have you asked her why? Maybe she could dress sexy for you in the bedroom as a start. Do you dress up for her when you go out? Why dont you start the trend and maybe she will follow. Just a suggestion. Also tell her how hot and beautiful she is to you every day and that you are turned on by her. Do not cut her down or be harsh in any way about her weight or the way she dresses. Love her for who she is and then someday she will feel really good about herself and her self esteem will build up because she will start to believe that she is beautiful and hot. Then who knows she just may want to dress nice and sexy. Compliments and praise go a long way with a woman BUT degrading and cutting down critisizing and complaining does not.Basically if in one time you are nice and complimentary and the next minute you are mean and critisizing and cutting her down she will not feel loved and accepted by you at all and she will not feel beautiful and sexy.
2007-03-03 15:08:58 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You gotta make her feel special.
What have you done romantically lately? If the answer is not much, you got some work to do.
* Cards, notes, flowers.
* Get her something she's been eying lately.
* Do something fun with her.
* Do what she wants sexually. If she's happy, she'll work to make you happy.
If it's that bad, have a talk with her and find out what's wrong. There is usually a reason behind it.
2007-03-03 14:47:06 · answer #3 · answered by brotherb95 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aww...tell her over and over how hot you think she is. Defiinitely do NOT mention losing a few "glamour pounds". She's probably just self conscious. Make sure she knows you think she's gorgeous and start buying her stuff you'd like her to wear. Maybe she'll get into it!
2007-03-03 15:02:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're an asshole.
Try treating her with some respect, and listen to what she actually wants.
Believe it or not, it's not all about you.
*Sweet, I don't get called a bonafide ***** very often! So you go to work, and you do regular chores, what do you do that makes her feel special? What do you do that she should reciprocate?
So far, with your 'justification', it's still all about you!
2007-03-03 14:42:49 · answer #5 · answered by Sue 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋