This one is for all of you, single, in committed relationships or married...
What is your opinion on your significant other going to strip clubs when you are in a commited relationship with them?
Do you believe that even when you are with someone, you are going to "notice" good looking people of the opposite sex?
Do you believe that if you are happy and content in a relationship with someone, that you don't need to go and look at other naked women? or do you think that it is something that many "healthy men" in "healthy relationships" do?
If a woman has a problem with it, do you think that she is insecure?
Thanks to all of you that take the time to answer seriously and honestly!!
2007-03-03 14:16:07 · 8 answers · asked by daisy31 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm in a committed relationship and would be very upset if my boyfriend went to a strip club. It just screams immaturity. Few women like the idea of their man looking at other naked women, and whether it should or not, it will make most women insecure. I know some women are ok with it, and will even go with him to the club, but my guess is they are the minority. The most important thing is that he understands your view on the subject. If you ask him not to go and he continues, that is just selfish and disrespectful.
2007-03-03 14:24:21 · answer #1 · answered by melissa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Beautiful people are everywhere... male and female, and of course we notice them, but don't view them the same way we would if we were not in a committed relationship. As for strip clubs, if you have voiced your opinion about not exactly liking the fact that he's going, then he's being insensitive. As a woman, I would also say that it's not insecurity that makes us not like the strip clubs, rather then him WANTING to go that would make us insecure. Then there's the other half of the scale that says "it doesn't matter where he gets his water hot, as long as it boils at home".
2007-03-03 22:27:40 · answer #2 · answered by kebbs32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend has never gone to a strip club while with me. He does look at porn, but I don't have a problem with this because we are in a long distance relationship. It's better that than with someone else.
No matter how in love you are with someone, I don't think that they will never stop noticing attractive people. It's like art. If a picture looks nice, no matter how much you love another one, you may appreciate this new one for what it is. That doesn't mean you'll love the first one anyless.
Talk to your significant other and ask him why he wants to go.
I don't think he NEEDS to go look at other women, but if it means nothing to him that just fun, then I think it should be ok. That said, I don't think I'd be very happy if my boyfriend went to a strip club. I think I'd want to go with him to keep an eye on him. muahaha. No, I trust him, I guess I'd let him go......but first I'd have a long talk with him expressing my concerns and making sure I knew what he expected from it, and he shouldn't go unless you are reassured.
2007-03-03 22:27:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should a guy go to a strip club anyways? It shows low morals. Plus on top of that the guy is in a relationship? That is even worse. It means he would probably cheat if put in the right situation. Do u think this guy would turn down stripper if she offered herself to him? Let him stay with his girl. Good, loving relationships are much tougher to find than meaningless sex
2007-03-04 01:07:34 · answer #4 · answered by virgin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a problem with my man going to strip clubs if he wanted. On the few times he has gone I've gone with him. It's normal to look at other people. It's when you cross the line from looking to touching thats the problem.
2007-03-03 22:54:09 · answer #5 · answered by santobugito 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly it all comes down to respect. if you respect your loved one then you wouldn't go out to strip clubs. women arent insecure, they just want respect. I wouldnt go out and stuff money into mens crotch areas and have them wag thier d*ck's in my face. my man would be mad, and it's jut disrespectful. so why is it ok for men to stuff money into G-strings and have **** bounced in thier faces. a "healthy" relationship is all about trust,honesty,respect, and love. why complicate things. your with that woman because you respect her right? because your atracted to her right? if you want other women dancing naked infront of you or on you then you don't deserve to be in a relationship with someone.
2007-03-03 22:27:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he was content.. he wouldn't be looking at stripper women and maybe alot more you dont know about! So... it looks bad to me,,,, unless you don't care.. and it sounds like you do? Your not being insecure....but maybe feeling undesirable to him and neglected too!
2007-03-03 22:45:49 · answer #7 · answered by gbear92038hi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for me it's okay if guys go to stripclub EVEN when they're in serious reationship.we went there to have fun with our dudes.
it's somethg like guyz night or maybe 2 get away from u for some time 2 hangout wit other fwens.
2007-03-03 23:00:36 · answer #8 · answered by applejuice 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋