We divorced 2 yrs ago after 10-yrs. No kids. We haven't talked on the phone, but we email almost weekly. A couple of times in the first year we were in the same part of the country at the same time. I was lonely and asked if he wanted to meet. The first time he said, "We're divorced." The second time he said maybe, but didn't contact me until after he'd left town. I determined I wouldn't do that again.
Recently a mutual friend of ours visited him and asked him "So how's single life? Dating anyone?" He said, "No, I'm waiting for Sheri (me) to pull her head out of her a$$." Oops! I have no intention of ever going back to him. Recently it seems he has kicked a pursuit into high gear. For my birthday the other day he sent me an expensive gift. Since then he has sent several pictures of himself in Costa Rica looking really cute. He said he had them taken for me! He's developing feelings that will go nowhere.
Is there a subtle way to let him know so he doesn't focus on this?
2007-03-03 14:09:27 · 9 answers · asked by itry007 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not a subtle one. I'd be direct. If you don't have plans for him he needs to move on.
2007-03-03 14:18:24 · answer #1 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are are accepting gifts, emails, pictures from him, he's probably thinking that all is well and you all have a chance of getting back together. I suggest you stop accepting gifts and stop the emails etc. If need be, you may need to tell him that you are no longer interested.
2007-03-03 22:29:59 · answer #2 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A couple of times , you were in the same part of the Country , you were lonely and asked to meet up not once but TWICE !!!!
You may have caused the confusion , that he feels ! Do whatever it is , that you want to do ! But don't lead him on.....unless you want the relationship to go somewhere !
2007-03-03 22:31:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would point blank tell him that you are not interested in takeing him back . start sending the things he sends you back to him amd stop e-mail contact that makes him think you still think theres a chance and that you are leading him on
2007-03-03 22:18:36 · answer #4 · answered by family fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should give your relationship another try. It was the best decision I made when I was in a similar situation.
2007-03-03 22:14:52 · answer #5 · answered by Sara * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well take responsibility here and admit you have lead him on to think he has a chance... Why e-mail? He is your ex... Don't give him any light, and he will stop...
2007-03-03 22:27:24 · answer #6 · answered by St.Jeb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should stop him sooner rather than later, because even though your divorced, you wouldnt ask this question if you didnt care. So tell him before it goes too far.
2007-03-03 22:16:50 · answer #7 · answered by Em 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him the truth, it may hurt him a lot, but he needs to know its done and over with.
2007-03-03 22:13:16 · answer #8 · answered by freakychicky34 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just have to tell him NO...that you have no feelings for him and he needs to move on...stop keeping in touch with him if you have to!
2007-03-03 22:13:44 · answer #9 · answered by mrs_b40 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋