We have been married for 5 yrs and he has been an asshole the whole time pretty much, hes cheated, we had it out out girls calling his cell phone, he got an std he didnt give it to me though I was out of state. Hes a good provider and takes care of our 3 and 5 yr old. BUT I was so unhappy and I took it upon my self to get drunk one night and have sex with another man and get and std. I DID use a condom though. I told him so he can go get checked. Of course he freaked out and now says he thought I was his queen, and he wants a divorce. He did it to me and I felt he wasnt there for me so what is a girl to do. Plush I really dont want a divorce I want to really work it out. Should I just move on? If we try how long with it take him to trust me again? I did it out of spite because he would go hang out every weekend with his friends. I dont know what to do. He has a career and I dont I have been pretty much depending on him because he is in the military and I jump from job because we move.
2007-03-03 14:07:37 · 6 answers · asked by wonder woo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So he wants a divorce....and you care why exactly? Because you want to be taken care of and he is the one with the steady income? You said yourself that he has been an asshole the whole time, he has cheated, has girls calling his phone, and got an std. So tell me again why you even want to be with him....why leave it up to HIM? Pack your bags, scoop up your children, and PUSH ON!!! Time to grow up and go on your own.
I am an army wife by the way. And if my husband did the things yours did, I wouldnt give a rip where I was....Italy, Korea, Germany, Colorado, New York....Guam, Puerto Rico....Hawaii....I wouldnt care. I would be packin my bags and booking a flight. He aint worth it.
2007-03-03 14:40:28 · answer #1 · answered by an88mikewife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Why would you want to stay in this situation? What good did it do for you to get an STD? Get a lawyer. The military will make sure you and your children are provided for. I really do not think you'd make it if you try to work it out. His track record is not exemplary and he won't change. I really do not see him writing for the advice. Good luck.
2007-03-03 14:43:55 · answer #2 · answered by ladygwen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.) I don't care if he cheated on you. you shouldn't have cheated oon him either. 2 wrongs don't make a right. 2) you have kids and that also affects their lives. 3.) Tell your husband everything you've been feeling and ask him to try and make it work for your kids. P.S. I'm a 13 year old telling this and you should be ashamed if a child knows better than a grown woman.
2007-03-03 14:21:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if hes having sex with other women you should just divorce him NOWWWWWW
or if you REALLY want it to work just both of you make an agreement to never sleep [or even look at lol] other people ever again
2007-03-03 14:17:40 · answer #4 · answered by cocopuffs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why marriage sucks. Turns good people into Aholes due to all these stupid self imposed rules.
2007-03-03 14:15:34 · answer #5 · answered by Joe B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good going, now both of your crotches itch. That'll show him.
2007-03-05 01:46:14 · answer #6 · answered by joshnya68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋