Could anyone suggest any ideas on how to express myself?

Question

I need a way to express myself in every part in my life:
to my friends and family (need to get over embarrassment)
through my vocab (intellegent and smart, but not know-it-all)
through the way I dress (safe and humbly, but cute)
There is so much peer pressure from every one of those chapters in my life that I don't know what to do!!

FYI: My 12-year old daughter typed this question under my I.D. so if anyone can answer for a 12-year old, thank you. To all who have answered so far, thank you as well! Good answers so far! P.S. Mom is fine with expressing herself (smile)!

Answer 1

though ur friends:

if u want to overcome ur shyness, u might get more confidence. get out of ur shell, go out more and meet new ppl, talk a lot and find wut u have in common with each person, then say wuts in ur mind, if it comes out stupid, who cares? being concerned about wut ppl think is a waste of time, get it?

though ur vocab:

read more books, newspapers and magazines, listen to conversations of ppl that can talk well, these are ways to get better ur vocab.

though ur dressing:

go shopping and only buy things that suits ur style. see which kind of clothes, which colors makes u feel better and wear it!

Answer 2

I was sort of the same way for a while. It wasn't that I couldn't say what I needed, it was that I didn't trust anyone enough to tell anything to. I didn't look for someone to talk with. It just happened. Don't know why but it did. The only thing I can tell is to have patience. I know that's easier said than done but that's what you really need right now. Should you choose incorrectly and trust the wrong person, it could be devastating. It's not that you need to speak your feelings as it is you want to. There's a big difference, you know. I also felt like I didn't fit in. But this is what my hero taught me. It's not that you don't fit in with the world, the world doesn't fit in with you. That's a good thing! Just be patient and something good will happen in your life. Fate will play her cards when it's time.

Answer 3

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Could anyone suggest any ideas on how to express myself?
I need a way to express myself in every part in my life:
to my friends and family (need to get over embarrassment)
through my vocab (intellegent and smart, but not know-it-all)
through the way I dress (safe and humbly, but cute)
There is so much peer pressure from every one of those chapters in...

Answer 4

Embarrassment of what? Your the Mother of three girls. Your intelligent and smart. When you say that there is so much peer pressure, who are you in competition with? Your write pretty well and that is a great way of expressing yourself. If your cute, try a change in dress. Try something a little flashy once in a while. Color is a great way of expressing ones self. Art, music, books.....all ways of expressing yourself.

Answer 5

First of all start to try and not care so much about what others think of you. Focus on your strengths, and how good a person you truly are.. You can't make others like you, you have to like yourself first. When you get to that point, it does not much matter what others people think of you, you know you are the best and that is all that counts!

Answer 6

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I know what you mean. I was the same way around people I didn't know very well and around girls. It sounds dumb to people, but I know it really is hard. First off, I would like to congratulate you on overcoming you fear enough to post a long, heartfelt message on the internet, one of the cruelest places I know of. Second, I would like you to know that you posting this is going to probably be harder then talking to people. Now on to the advice. First, I would recommend reading more often, unless you read all the time. This can help you overcome the fear of not knowing what to say, or fearing that other people have more Intelligent things to say than you do, as reading greatly increases your vocabulary, which is one of the main reasons people sound smart. Second, I would recommend watching the news as it posts stuff on current events in sports, media, and politics. What better way to sound smart than be informed. However, not reading more or not watching the news won't make you stupid, in fact, you don't have to do it at all. I am suggesting these so that if you feel it would help you, you can do it. Also, my advice would be to find some alone time, stand in front of a mirror if you can, and as dumb as it sounds, have a conversation with yourself. Ask yourself questions aloud, and then answer them aloud, and imagine that your reflection is some one you don't know, or would normally have trouble talking to. If you can't get to a mirror, just ask yourself questions and answer them aloud with your eyes closed, and imagine your having a conversation with some one. Also, pump yourself up. When you get into or are going to get into a situation were you normally would have a hard time talking, just tell yourself in your head, "I can do this," or "My desire to be heard is greater than my fear of saying something dumb." That can be really important to helping take that leap to start being more vocal. Once you get used to being able to realize how important being heard is to you, find some one you really trust, and practice having conversations with them. One trick I would suggest would be to call relatives and friends, because it's much easier to talk when you can't see how the person reacts, and more importantly, they can't see you, so they will have a much harder time noticing that you might be nervous. Your family loves you and is their for you, no matter what. If you can't shake your thoughts about your past interactions with your dad, try and put a positive spin on it. Instead of saying, "We've had so many problems, and I'm worried that they will happen again," try thinking,"Me and my dad have had problems before, but we made it through them and we still love each other." You'll find that it will make problems like not being able to express yourself seem much less difficult, which can help you improve your ability to express yourself. If your problem with expressing your self is purely verbal, and you would like to get your family to understand your feelings, try typing or writing them a letter. It is much easier to express yourself through writing than through speech. Also, it's good to remember that your family is there for you, no matter what. It may seem to you like they would think it's stupid or meaningless, but if you told them that you wanted to have a serious talk about something you would like to overcome, you would be surprised at how willing they would be to help you, their child, who they have raised since you were a baby, and who they love more than anything in the world. Lastly, it is very important to remember that everyone will say something dumb in their life, and that it isn't the end of the world if you do. I can guarantee you that every single person that you have been nervous to talk to, has said something stupid in their lifetime. I can guarantee you that at some point in your life, you will say something that sounds kinda dumb. I can also guarantee you that you and everyone else won't remember after a week, at most. The only time they will remember is if you say something funny, and if you do, remember two things. One, you won't be bullied because of it. You would be surprised to know that, even when you say something that you thought was dumb, it can turn into a happy memory. It's a great feeling when some one says to you, "Hey, remember that time you said something to this person, that was really funny." When some one say that to you, think about this. Your words were so important that out of the hundreds of thousands of things that people have said to that person, your words were more important, because they remembered, and that's amazing, no matter which way you look at it. That realization is what helped me the most in overcoming my shyness when i talked to people, and I truly hope that this is helpful for you. :)

Answer 7

i used to have the same problem start writing in a journal or writing poetry it is a wonderful way to express yourself.

Answer 8

i always express myself in my attitude...my actions and definetly my unique style of clothing.!. but i guess only YOu no how to express YOURSELF! good-luck